My daughter makes my 8-year old grand daughter cry in front of me. As tears are running down her cheeks, my grand daughter looks at me as if to say HELP ME...this just breaks my heart! Why does my daughter do this to me?
Have you ever tried talking to your daughter about it? Is this a new behavior or something she's always done?
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Can't talk to my daughter, she gets angry very easily and blows up! this pattern has been going on for awhile. My daughter is struggling with alcoholism and is an angry and mean person. If I talk to her about this, I am afraid she will blow up and my grand daughter is right there.
@gmahomey: Sadly that reminds me of my childhood. And while I cant speak to you on the mindset of your daughter's actions, I can speak on the impact those moments have on your grand daughter. She is going to need you to stand up for her. I know how hard that is going to be for you, but since her mother isn't really acting like her mother right now, she needs you more than ever. If you are afraid that if you stand up for your grand daughter to your daughter directly, then I would talk to privately. She is probably scared and confused about what is wrong with her mother. Make sure she knows she is loved and that she has someone she can talk to. I wish I had more help to offer you. All the above, I wish my grandmother would have done that for me when my mom wasnt acting like my mom.
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You are in a tough spot for sure! I'm REALLY sorry because I can tell you're at a loss and want to help your granddaughter. I'm guessing you don't want to involve child protective services, but if your daughter continues with that behavior your granddaughter is going to suffer. And maybe if authorities get involved they'll make her get help for her alcoholism. You can make a call and stay anonymous, your daughter would never have to know it was you. I know it may seem drastic, but really you could be helping both your daughter and your granddaughter. I'm a grandmother who's raising a grandson because my daughter made poor choices and I can't make her live like she should but I sure wasn't going to let her drag my grandson down with her. I love her dearly but my grandson comes first, and I'd beat her like an egg before I let her hurt my grand baby. My heart goes out to you truly. Pray on it and hopefully you'll find an answer. I know either way it won't be easy. (HUGS)
Booze and child are not a good combo... Achol changes you into a inpatient person..she needs to see that stuff tunrns you into a monster.. p.s.just saying my parents would take me to court
I really appreciate everyone's insight, this really helps. I'm so afraid if I stand up for my grand daughter, her mom will lose it and put the child in harms way...my daughter has already lost one child due to her drinking(now living with her dad)and I see the same pattern again with the 8-year old