My father makes no sense. I try to explain him I am happy. He says I can't be happy for I am fat and single, and that my best friend is a bad influence on me for she "says me to be fine", "tells me I look okay" and "teaches me crap like that soul is more important than body."
He says I don't deserve to be happy , that I should put down and find myself a man, and after that I can be happy. I am 70kg on 175 cm, so nothing like morbidly obese, and that friend of mine is actually my girlfriend, which I can't tell him, cause he hates her already. I wanna solve this somehow but there doesn't seem to be a way, talking and explaining won't help.
@HT-A Your father is giving you his belief about how women should look. He is entitled to his belief but that has nothing to do with who you are. If you are comfortable with your body, that is all that counts. Its great that you have a friend that accept you as you are. Unfortunately, your father is not able to do that. Hopefully he can come to understand that you have your life to live in a way that is comfortable for you.
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@HT_A I am so sorry for what you are going through with your parents. I read over some of your prior posts and you have really been strong through a lot of things. Can I join others in telling you that your life is worth living, that you are valued, and you are loved? It stinks when you are getting such negative feedback from your own parents. We cannot choose our parents, but as adults we can choose what we listen to and how we respond to negativity. Its obvious you love your parents and value their opinions, but please know that you should surround yourself with as much positivity and love as possible. Please try to stop repeating negative things to yourself. Can you take the time to write down positive things about yourself? Things you are grateful for? Then when the negative voices come at you, or anxiety builds, read off some of those positive and grateful things. One thing I see in your posts is that you care about others, that you seem to have a very genuine and loving heart. Focus in on that. Some of my go-to strengthening things I repeat back to myself are "Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand." (this is Isaiah 41:10) and "I can do all things through Him who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:13) I hope you can learn to love yourself just as you are. God can help you do that. I will be praying for you!