My fiancée and I split up, she is ready to deal with her op

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My fiancée and I split up, she is ready to deal with her opiate addiction the right way through a doctor.
I miss her so bad I am miserable, she says she loves me and after she gets sober we work on us.
What role am I suppose to play in this. I want to there for her but I don't want to be used.

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Hello. I've speaking from a point of experience here. I had a minor opiate addiction, about 3 years ago. Today it's still a struggle to stay clean but I find it getting easier the more time goes on. The role you are suppose to play is her rock. I had to be and stay sober all on my own. So many times i would've stayed away from the drugs if I had someone to talk to or go to the movies with. Literally ANYTHING! Just don't let her feel like you gave up on her! If she feels alone she will go to the drugs for support. Hope this helps!

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Thank you very much yes it helps alot, I don't think I can ever give up on her I love her too much

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Coming from experience of being an addict, having parents as addicts, and being a substance abuse counselor you have to identify with her on her reasons for using. Do not pass judgement just provide ongoing support, you have to be honest with yourself on what you are comfortable giving up. Substance abuse is a life long struggle but with the right amount of support and love you can overcome it. If you love her unconditionally and recognize substance abuse as an illness you will be able to get a better grip on it. Show her that life is worth living, take her to group meetings or do research on ways of helping her distract her mind. She is lucky to have you. Just take things one day at a time.

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@K4rm4tic Thanks for helping the member out.

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@K4rm4tic thank you very much. I do love her unconditionally and I don't judge anybody.
I sometimes do not understand where she is coming from because I haven't been there.
All I know is I love her and I am willing to give up everything if that what it takes for her to get better.

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@danmarcoux Stay strong and realize she is doing the right thing for BOTH of you right now. I know it’s hard but let her do this so she can get better. Hugs