My first post! Stuck in the same spiral of self destruction

My first post! Stuck in the same spiral of self destruction. I seem to do it subliminally without even wanting or trying to do it. A learnt behaviour of hurting myself and others. Even after 14 years of meds and therapy im only aware of my flaws but remain unable to change them. Is it even right to undergo therapy to change my personality to become more socially acceptable or do you end up loosing who you are? D

hmmm.... those are some deep questions. it is my first day too! i will have to come back to this after some pondering.