My girlfriend is constantly trying to change me help!
Be your person and don't let anyone try to control you.
Own person*
maybe communicate with her that you feel like she's constantly trying to change you. remind her that the original you is who decided to be with her. the changed you may not have the same feelings towards her. not threatening, but openly communicating to her that you're satisfied.
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She already has a 5yr old from a previous relationship dad has nothing to do with him no child support no contact nothing it's his choice. We are now expecting parents she is about 2 months pregnant and is making it very obvious I have no say so in how her son is being raised. He has a good heart and can be a great kid but makes it obvious he doesn't have to listen to anything I say. When I talk to her about it she says he's just a kid let it go. I'm just trying to teach him some responsibility by picking up after himself I even offer to help. Now that we have a baby on the way she is constantly pressuring me to quit my job, find something better paying to provide for the family( buy a house, pay the bills, etc..) I'm looking at the big picture like she wants to be a stay at home mom and she doesn't really care if I'm always working. I told her I don't have a problem working a 2nd job if need be to help out but she could eventually work maybe a few nights after the baby is born. She insists she would never see her son or the baby but it's ok for me to work all the time. I was already married once and my ex wife put me in a bad financial spot and I'm trying to bounce back. My girlfriend has stated that I should get a good paying job in ample time or else. I have said some things that might have been out of line more than once and I have tried to apologize. I don't know what to do anymore
@jrt81080 I’m a single mother with three kids and no child support. I work 40 hours plus every week. She can work while the five yr is in school and the baby at day care.
She insists there would be no time to work because her son would only be in school for about 3 hours and daycare is to expensive. I said what about working a few nights she says she would never spend anytime with her son or the baby. But it's ok for me to always work I've always worked a fulltime job my whole life
I understand. When I was with my kids father.... He would work some nights and weekends and I did Mon thru Fri daytime. So we didn't have to get a sitter. Now I pay my parents to take the kids to school and pick them up. O try to work around the school schedule. There are days I am able to pick them up at school. I think she just don't want to work.
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Pretty much she just avoids the topic at all costs. Am I being unreasonable asking her to work maybe a couple nights a week? She keeps saying my income where it is will never get us into a home
Well it would help if she worked too. Its not fair for you to bust your *** while she is using the kids as an excused not to help.