My girlfriend of 4 years is a compulsive liar and I am trying desperately to work on our relationship, but the almost laughable white lies are making me angrier and angrier and I'm NOT an angry person. It's making me into someone I'm not. I have a massive family (one of 8 kids) and beautiful friends and 2 wonderful sons, I'm just in pain because I love my partner, but I cannot trust her. Even with the really simple day to day things. I don't want her to "prove" things I just want to "know" that its true.
There is so much history, but I'm not afraid to be alone. I'm afraid the grass isn't greener any where else. Is it weird that I just wouldn't lie about anything, but she does about most things??
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Thanks Rachel, it's all just.... Frustrating right now...
I've always thought that hurt people hurt people. Lying is probably a symptom of other problems. Self-worth issues? Trust issues? Personality disorder issues?! Idk...but I was with what I would call a pathological liar who was most definitely narcissistic. All of it was a recipe for crazy-making and I turned into someone I didn't like anymore. I became hyper-vigilant for the truth. Checking-up and acting more like a crazed mom than a loving girlfriend. No thank you! You obviously have a lot invested in this person so only you will know when you're done (if it's something that can't be fixed). But the one thing I can say for sure...is that worrying that there isn't more happiness available to you in this world in the form of another person is the damage this person's behavior has taken on your self-confidence...not the truth. I am here to talk to if you need!