My husband and I just decided two weeks ago to get a divorce. We love each other very much, but I'm poly and he's monogamous. Suddenly faced with the idea that I have to financially support myself I don't know how I'm going to make it through this. I'm terrified and full of doubt. I feel so alone. :(
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You could decide to be mono :) This isn’t to cut in you, but the best thing I ever did before I was married was learn to live on my own without needing a spouse. Now that my husband is divorcing me, as much as it breaks my heart, living independently doesn’t scare me. You can do it. It’ll teach you a lot about yourself - maybe things you didn’t know. You might find what you thought you wanted before isn’t what you want.
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@BackontheFarm I'm sorry you and your husband can't make it work even though you do still love one another. Are you sure there's not some way to salvage the marriage? Divorce is very painful and devastating in so many ways. I've been divorced for several years and I'm still struggling financially. It's taking me so long to get back on my feet financially.
Finances aren't the only consideration. If you still love one another, it's really going to hurt to separate. You were poly and he was monogamous when you married, is there no way to go back to that time in your lives when things worked for the two of you?
You are definitely not alone, we've all been there or are still there. This is a great group for offering both compassion and support.
I truly wish you the best.