I have known my husband a very long time and we have been very good friends for just as long. I have always suspected that he is bisexual. Recently my suspicions have been confirmed. We really love each other and I'm sure this will work, but now I have even more questions regarding how to do that, and keep us both happy, when I, as well, am very bicurious. I could use a few brains to pick. I don't want to screw this up!
Hi Mlobidz, I think that the key is to keep communication open and to make sure that you are both open and honest with one another. How are you feeling about everything?
Honesty is the key along with good communication.bringing in another person into the mix is not always the answer but I feel that sometimes we take the path of least resistance only later you can't undo or erase .I can relate to how you feel with experience and wishing the two of you the best.
My husband recently did the same thing although I suspected it for years. While he is trying to be patient i know he is really wanting to have sex with men. He also wants me to join them. I feel like he is wanting that so I won't see think of it as him cheating. If he can get me involved he's in the clear. I think I would always think he was cheating even if I was in the room. I am not sure he hasn't already been having sex with men. He swears he never has actually gone through with it but I'm not sure. On the other hand I am terrified that if I don't do a threesome with him or at least give him permission to try it he will do it anyway, I will never know about it and the dishonesty would just be too much to bear. I admit I think the whole thing is sexy on a fantasy level. I seriously don't think I could handle the reaslity. But if I don't go along he'll probably do it anyway then there is all that to deal with. Twodogs, what do you think is the path of least resistance for you?
I was once one of those DL guys even though I didn't understand what was going on with me. I want out and had my little flings with other other men. In time I bought VD into my marriage. After a while the marriage broke up. With time I came to understand what was going on with me and that I didn't have to act on those feeling of getting with a man if I didn't want to. I still think about it from time to time but I don't act on it any more.
I'm saying this ti say if your man wants to go out and get f--ked by another man then thats what he's going to do if he hasn't already. He's coming to you to ease his guilt. Now if you are down with it then by all means go ahead. FULLY SAFE SEX all the time because HIV is always around. Along with other STD'S.
What if you're not down with it? How do you tell if he's playing? I know what to look for if he's with women, is it different with men?
I don't think it is any different than if he had the desire to be with another woman,cheating is cheating.Open and frank discussion with no holding back on both sides I think would be a help.one partner selling the other on a idea is a bad thing that can do damage,as evidenced by the divorce rate of swinger couples.The urges that a bi can have can be controlled and one doesn't have to act on it.Your are not alone with thinking man sex is a turn on,a lot of women do.It's too dangerous to sport f-ck,this is not the seventies.If someone is gonna play there is nothing you can do to stop it.I wish you well...
Have you been open and honest with your wife or husband? If so, what did he or she say? Are you still with them?
wife of 29 years who is understanding,open to discussion and my best friend.