I have been struggling since the 4th of November. My 3rd anniversary was on November the 3rd. On the 4th, my husband decided to declare his decision for a divorce. Granted our marriage has been struggling off and on, but it wasn't terrible. He is a wonderful man. I have no real marital complaints. There are always things that could be better but there was nothing so earth shattering for me to think that he would tell me he was done with me and wants a divorce. That is his basic response, "I'm done." For me, I'm not done. I still love my husband and I am not looking forward to a divorce. We have been trying to talk, but I do a lot of the talking. I am afraid that I am way more vested at this point. I took my vows to heart, good bad or otherwise. I have faith we can work on things if he decides to work on them, its just a struggle getting there. I am afraid at this point that if he rejects me, I won't be able to come back from it. I am really saddened and angered that he didn't come and talk to me about what was going on so we could address it. How do people actually know when it is over? Everyone tells me that I need to decide for me and I don't know.