My nana has had dementia/alzheimers for at least 4 years that i know of. my family is very private to the point that they wont talk about this. I see it getting worse and worse and i dont know how to handle it. i dont understand what is going on i dont understand her world. how do i talk to her, do i allow her to live in her reality is there a way of bringing her back to whats real with out embarrassing her? they keep telling me just go with it and i dont understand what that means. please help me i cry all the time and i just dont know what to do
my grandmother had dimentia. it is really hard. what they mean by going along with her is pretending to know what she is talking about or agreeing with her. depends on what it is she is talking about. i would just listen to whatever it is that she said and kind of nod like your being a good listener. its not that your not being a good listener but it is hard to know what to say or do when they are going into their own little world. all you can do is let her know you love her very much. my grandmother was still coherent on and off til she passed away. she always knew who i was. sometimes they do forget certain people or get confused. i am so sorry you are going through this. one thing i could suggest is maybe you can google alzheimers or dimentia and maybe that will help you get more information that you need. im sorry i couldnt be of more help. i hope this helps in some way. you and your family will be in my prayers.
lovemynana913, my daddy had the disease and it is indeed heart wrenching. enjoy her in her world. there may be moments where she is back in our world but, they are fleeting. the reality of the disease is that she may get to where she will not even know who you are anymore if she is not there already. i don't know that they feel embarressed anymore, daddy did'nt. i'm so sorry that your family and you have to go thru this, it is a cruel disease...know your not alone hun, we are here for you to share your journey. let us know if we can help in any way.