OK- I haven't been to a therapist in manyyyyyyyyy years. Today was my first apt. She asked me what I wanted from my sessions and from her. I thought it was OBVIOUS - to be FREE FROM BULIMIA and never B/P again...
Has your therapist asked you the same thing and if so what did you all tell her? Am I supposed to break my goals down into smaller segments? I guess I was confused about her asking me this.
Also, she suggested I read Intuitive Eating. I will pick up the book this weekend.
My therapist asked me the same thing. I thought it was strange too. I told her I wanted to be happy again and to figure out what I'm supposed to be doing with my life.
I guess the therapist just wants to see if you are serious about being there or if you have actually thought about what you want to accomplish. If you said, "I don't know" or "nothing" the two of you would have a longer road to travel together than if you can actually start from "I want to stop b/p".
I thought it should be obvious that if I am seeing a therapist due to major depression that my goal would be to not have depression anymore, but actually telling your therapist you want to be free of your problem gives you both the satisfaction of having a concrete goal.
Congrats on seeing a therapist again! Good luck with your treatment!
mine asked me that too! I told her I didn't know. she couldn't help me because all I wanted was my daddy and he died so there's nothing she can do for my misery because I was unhelpable. and she told me I must want something form therapy. why was I there and we started talking and there were many things I wanted but I said I wanted to no feel as miserable and also I needed help and have no support from anyone and noboddy to tlak to so I wanted someone to listen and well... that's what therapy is lol It's just a complicated question to answer because sometimes we know why we are there but tehre are so many other things going on that we've yet to deal with that your mind just doesn't know how to answer. and therapists ask to see waht your major probems are and what you hope to gain so that at then end they can see how you're doing and whether or not you got what you wanted out of it and if they were able to help you get closer to what you wanted form therapy...idk that's what I think
My thought is that when that question is asked, it's just to make you think. There's no right or wrong answer. Your first thought is "Free me from bulimia" then say it! That's your goal! I'm sure that while talking to her, you'll realize the true depth of that answer - that there are quite possibly things inside you that need to heal in order to free you from your ED. Because that's the root of all EDs, isn't it? We all suffer from an ED for reasons deeply rooted in our hearts, minds, and souls. But we have to get there first, to a place where we can admit that, before we can begin to find out what those things are for which we suffer. And that's what your therapist is for. By asking you that question, she probably wanted to see where on the spectrum of all that you are.