my therapist tells me that i need to talk about what happened to me! otherwise i wont be able to heal! how do i heal when i clam up and it hurts so bad to talk about it?
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I have the same problem. Constant pressure to talk about it and even of I try I can't. All I can say is I think and I hope that one day we will both be ready.
Cause if you put it on the back burner it will caught up to you later in lifr. I an dealing with my past now don't talk about what happened but how you are free felling
If you think about it, you're talking about the topic right now. I think the key is to extend oneself a little with each discussion. In that way, you won't feel overwhelmed. Just one little step at a time will eventually cause a journey. Good luck to you.
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Start small, if it's easier to talk about it here, just do that for now. You're still talking about it, but it's over the computer and you don't have to physically speak to someone else about it. Then, as you get more comfortable telling your story... you can expand to others in your life. But ignoring it doesn't help anything at all... and just makes things worse.
It is your story that you get to tell in your time and your way. The details of what happened may be the last part you tell. I think the most helpful part is expressing the feelings. The feelings you have about talking about it, saying it hurts to talk about it is an excellent step in the direction of healing. Once you are comfortable talking about your feelings, you will be more comfortable with just feeling them and that is freedom.
I've tried to send you a comment before and for some reason they aren't going thru, so I'll try again one more time..I can't tell you what will happen if you get thru the pain and talk about being raped but I can tell you what may happen I'd you don't talk about being raped and get thru it and on with your life, I was raped when I was 13 and it devastated me I never told anyone and took care of it myself, I started drinking and doing drugs, I had duo much anger that I pushed everyone away and felt justified doing it, I had sex with any boy or Man that would have me,I was going to prove to them that I was ok, I fought anyone and everyone, I've never had a normal intimate relationship, if it didn't invoke drugs or alcohol then I wasnt there, my relationships were abusive and controlling with me being just a much an instigator as them, and then one day you wake up and you are in your 50's and you realize that all the self medicating and fighting and anger did nothing to help you deal with being raped and now your just tired, you take medication because it helps you be ok with not being ok, you realize that you will never be ok and you are ok with that, you leave me alone and I'll leave you alone, and alone you will be for the rest of your life so my advice to you would be go thru the pain of talking with someone now and save yourself a lifetime of anger and sorrow...
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Well said. Thank you for sharing.
Yw..