My wife filed for divorce after 15 years of marriage 20 years together and she reminded why she did itit, I was bad and didn't realize it she reminded me of all the things that I said to her that were crushing her and I didn't care.now I do.and it might be too late, now she played apart in it too the nagging chasing me around the house and the nonstop phone calls when I was out with my friends when I did go out with them which was not often, but when we had arguments and fights I would at some of the most terrible things to her that she reminds me of and it did a number on her, now she says she wants to be happy and if she stays withe that won't happen i love my wife and family more than anything and to see the past 20 years go away as if they meant nothing is devastating how do I get her back and let her know that this time iam getting the help and not to give up on our marriage that it will get better and the good times will come back because I think she is only focused on what wentry bad and remind her of why we both said i do through sickness and in health till death do us part like what every couple says on the alter. I miss my soulmate
Okay. You start by writing her a letter (remember, the pen is more powerful than the sword)......start by saying: "Dear ____, we did not get married to get divorced."........then go on telling her all your feelings about how this marriage can be fixed, and bring up all the wonderful memories you too have created together........really make it heartfelt and express to her how much you really love her and cannot bring yourself to live in a world without her.......the key here is that you guys need to take some time apart and take a deep breath and realize that you are BOTH BETTER OFF TOGETHER THAN APART.....don't let this divorce happen. I've had enough of broken marriages; I want to see more people stay together and re-kindle their love for one another. Divorce is not the answer.
U dont know what "til death do us part " means. Most everybody that gets married doesnt, and I can NOT figure out why people would take vows they dont know what they mean. It sounds like ur wife knows though. "Til death do us part" means, "death in love", "death in respect", "death in honor", "death in trust", death in being faithful", "death because of cheating", etc, etc. And if a marriage can get thru for a lifetime "without" the deaths in it that destroy, then, and "only" then, can ur marriage become TIL "PHYSICAL" DEATH DO US PART. No one married can predict the future, that's why not understanding "til death do us part" IS what ultimately ends marriages. When there is a death in one or more of these areas, there is no reason to stay. The damage u've done to ur wife is already done. She can NOT handle the deaths in her marriage. The only way she can be free now is to get out of it. Let ur wife go, she needs her peace and freedom back. Take this as a lesson: "The next time u get married, after u say I DO, dont get too comfortable because, "It's one thing to get a good woman, it's a whole different ballgame to keep her".