Need some advice

hi everyone,

I don't really know how to go about writing this- i just joined today, but i have been struggling with bulimia really bad for two years and overeating for my whole life before that. I just recently came out to my mom and older sister about it- mostly because I had to because it became super obvious. I'm working on treatment at school and stuff, although I still feel like i have a huge battle ahead of me.

The main problem is I just found out my little sister (16) who has recently gained a little weight, keeps commenting on how much weight I have lost recently. My mom isn't really good at this and from what ive heard she's been pushing her the same way she pushed me when I was younger to loose weight and diet. I want to tell my little sister about my struggle with bulimia because I don't want her to make the same mistake i've made- but I don't want to give her the idea or make her think it worked or anything like that because I did loose weight - i know that this eating disorder has been a bad thing for me and I'm scared about how to tell her so she gets this. I really just want to keep her from getting hurt- and it would kill me to know that my eating disorder hurt her and caused her to go through the same torment i've experienced. So if you have any advice or ideas how to tell her, or think it would be best that i don't tell her- i would love to hear it.

Thanks and sorry this is sooo long :)

Amber...I'm glad that you are reaching out for help! I understand your concerns about your sister, but the best thing you can do for HER is to take care of yourself, and perhaps be open with her about what you are working on...emotional honesty, etc. Keeping it all away from her, or trying to pretend that nothing is going on will only hurt you, because you will be once again putting on a mask, and possibly her, by standing by and assuming things that may not be accurate. Maybe you can talk to you Mother about your concerns and a family mtg.could be helpful? Take care...Jan ♥