I am divorced. My ex is a foreigner who used me to elevate their life and upon obtaining that goal asked for a divorce to marry someone of the same nationality to have children. We were supposed to have a family, build a life together but all the resources we built together will be used for another life, not mine. I feel like ten years of my life has been stolen by a lie and feel broken. I don't know how to rise above the anger, hurt, rage, self pity, humiliation, despair I feel. Some days are good others are very bad. What do you do when you find your life was based on a lie?
You did have some happiness out of this relationship while you were in it. Now you have learned to be aware of your bounderies so that you don't fall into this type of relationship again. Take your power back. Be thankful for what you had and be thankful that you're no longer spending more time with this person. You have a future as a more intelligent, wonderful, incredible version of your former self. Be proud of who you are. You deserve the best. And if you feel like breaking something...that feels pretty good too.
Thanks for the encouraging words. It is sometimes easy to forget the good times you have had and dwell only on the bad. I have been trying to daily tell myself that life is good for me... sometimes hard to do. My problem is that our lives are still not separated completely and everytime we talk, I again become angry, hurt and sad.
You have a right to feal the way you do.But at some time you have to let go and move on with your life.My divorce has been very nasty.I felt the same way till one day I relized that there is nothing I can do about her.I have taken her out of the picture all together.I still see her when I get my kids but at no time do I talk to her.
Time does help heal the pain.Do not look at the past only move forward and take what has happened and learn from it.Keep your head up we all have had our uphill battles but time will help.Take care.
I am so, so sorry you were done this way. Your feelings are normal and it is a process to go through each of those feelings. I've yet to get through all of them, but I'm working on it. I would say (even if you don't feel this way right now) you were lucky you did not have children with him. When someone comes along that you fall in love with and you are ready to get remarried and have a family, you will look back on this whole situation and feel very lucky that you didn't. He obviously has issues and you obviously deserve better! Hugs to you! Sunshine!
I too am divorced. Love will come your way again. Maybe more than once. Choose wisely. When you are happy being alone, then you can choose who you want to be with. Now is the time to do everything you've ever wanted to do with you life. It will help you heal and you'll never regret it.
You are very right jenny123 .
Sometimes the only way to keep focused on myself is to do things I like to do but had no time for.Hope to find someone but have learned so much from divorce.
the pain of losing everything for other half to have fun is going to take a long time to trust anyone else.Well have fun and keep our heads up.