Hi iam new to this. Have never joined a support group before. But i just feel like i need to talk to some one who can understand.
I have been married for 6 yrs now and n have been trying to conceive since almost 4 yrs now.
Have done a laparoscopy and a lot of blood test everything is fine with me and my husband.
Have gone thru 3 IUI and a few other small treatments with no luck :(
As of now the doctor has put me on alternate mths of contraceptive pills and the nxt mth of letroz 2.5 mg and sifasi 5000 on D17 n D21.
I try and stay positive every mth, but i cant take it anymore. When iam on my PMS its like all the strength that i had the whole 3wks come crushing down.
I would talk to a friend at times but everyone has there own set of problems and how much can one listen to the same stuff all the time. So iam trying not to talk to her about this.
If i tell my husband anything he says lets stop lets not try. if it has to happen it will at its own time. My inlaws are really worried after 3 yrs they have stopped telling me stuff. coz they know there is nothing i can do.
But iam getting tired and just feeling like crying. Iam on the 2nd day of my periods today hoping i would not get it but.... :(
I feel soooo lost n alone
You are not alone!! My husband and I are in a similar position. I don't know if you feel like I do, but everyday I want to cry and feel so broken! I feel like I have heard it all, "you'll get pregnant when you stop trying, everything will happen when it is supposed to, etc." I think that it is easier to talk to someone you don't know sometimes than the friends and family that hear about the issues frequently. People who have not ever had to deal with the rollercoaster of craziness that is infertility just don't understand the emotional toll it takes on someone. Forget the fact that every few days you get your hopes up that this visit is the time when it is going to work, but throw a ton of hormones on top of that! Don't even get me started on the cost. What is the treatment that you are going through., We are taking the daily injections right now. We did oral meds and ovulation monitoring for like 3 years on an off, and have recently gotten more serious in the last year taking the injections and doing ultrasounds every 3 days. Everything is fine with my husbands business, so it feels like it is all on me. If you are struggling, you can lay it on me, I understand! We are just finishing up year 4 of infertility, so I am right there with ya sister!
U know the crazy thing is every one says stop thinking about it. How can u not think about it, since so many years that’s the main things ur doing.
Doctors say ur stressed out. Of course we will be stressed out, Its not happening !!! age is catching up. We are not getting any younger. Iam going to be 32 soon. Hubby is 38. I don’t say too much about this to him but it just eats me from inside.
Don’t stress easier said than done right.
How old are u?
I feel your pain! Every time I get my period it's like a punch in the gut. I know people mean well when they ask but by now I just want them to go away! It's easy for them to say "oh, just relax and it will happen". Yeah, right! We are approaching the medical intervention stage and I am very nervous as to how he will react. But hopefully we will both benefit from the support here!
thank you so much for replying.
I finally cried yesterday, i could not hold it in any longer. I keep such a straight face around family but from the inside iam....... so....... :(
i have gone thru the injections and the every 3 days ultrasound. Its crazy. Some of the docs are so bad with giving the injections, the injections that i took 2wks back still hurt at times :(
Its so crazy my Inlaws friends keep asking me at times so when are u giving us the good news. U should give it fast now. its been soo long.
Iam like u guys...... I am sure they know iam trying.
I dont go around telling ppl oh u know iam having a problem conceiving.
Its like everyone wants to poke there nose in ur business.
@penelope20 how long have u been trying.
have u guys tried all these sites on line. I bought this ebook recently just started reading it. Not sure how good it is. But from her blog a lot of ppl have benefited from it. its called "Personal Path to Pregnancy". I have even subscribed to her free mailing list.
We have been trying for 1.5 years. Isn't it amazing that people just feel free to ask whatever they want? I am the youngest one in my office and the only one without kids. One of the women asked if my husband wanted kids and I said yes and she actually had the nerve to say, "oh, so you're the one holding up the process!". I almost punched her right in her stupid little face.
We just found out that my husband has very low testosterone, but his doctor doesn't want to give him anything for it until he does another blood test in JUNE. Meanwhile, time ticks by! It's good because it offers some sort of explanation but frustrating because it seems like just another thing.
I'd be interested to know how you like the book. Hopefully it is helpful!
Iam going a bit slow on the book but will let u know if the book is good and if i come across any tips.
One this i definitely need to check on is the metal toxicity in my body. They say that if u have any cavity fillings in ur tooth which are of metal that can also reduce the chances of pregnancy. I do have a cap for a root canal treatment that i had done.
No harm in checking that out.
The good thing for u is ur doc has found some problem, at least u can look into a certain direction which can help u. June is right around the corner hopefully things should work out for u soon.
Till then u should look into a few sites where u can try n improve the testosterone levels with some home remedy or foods.
I came across this site which u can go thru for the good foods to eat. Hope it helps.
Thanks for the site! I just saw that your age - I am 31 and my husband is 39. It is definitely helpful to have some sort of explanation - it explains a lot of his problems lately, which is good. At least we have a place to move forward from.
I feel like iam loosing hope. Iam loosing all my strength that i was holding on to for soooo long. Before i was so positive that its going to happen. Some day it will. If i do this it might work or if i do that it might work.
But iam tired now. I want to stop everything.
Again i had another lady ask me the same question yesterday.....:(
Hi I'm new and I've never joined a support group before:) I find myself obsessed and thinking about how badly we want to get pregnant all day and I dream about it at night. Nobody around me has had infertility problems and I'm at the age where all of my friends are popping out kids left and right. Our major problem right now is that our insurance company won't pay for the daily injections. So we're broke and still not pregnant. Has anybody else had problems with insurance companies? Is it a never ending battle? I already feel crushed that it's my fault we can't get pregnant and totally helpless because I'm not "broken" enough (they'll pay for IVF but not injections) or I'm not old enough! They'll also pay for infertility treatments if I'm 35... I don't want to wait 7 more years! I'm just struggling but want to thank you all for your posts, just reading that I'm not in this alone brings me a little comfort.
Hello all,
I am 46 and married for 14 years. We never had children. Three years into marriage I found my husband to be a totally different person and I never pushed to have a child because I found him to have a temper and I did not want children born to that kind of dad. I have been trying to leave him for all these years. I never have the courage. But I digress. I want to instill some possibilities to make your lives a little less stressful. For those whose family and co workers prod and remind of your sadness.... No one realizes what emotional torment you go through from the time you wake up to the time you go to bed.. The best thing is to find the right moment to explain to them your sadness/frustration, thank them for their concern, let them know it is hard to talk about it and ask to refrain.. Use your own words though.
My sister and her husband tried for many years to have a child and it was met with 4 miscarriages. It effected them both and they had terrible dreams. They decided to halt the trying so hard mode and just tried to focus on themselves. They healed and moved on. Fortunately though they had one son before all the trying. Don't hold back your feelings from your spouse. They are going through the rough emotions as well.
MOST IMPORTANT!! Have you given much thought as to what all that medical therapy is doing to your body's natural cellular rythym? Research your medicines that you are taking. WebMD.com is a good resource. It helped me with my high blood pressure. One of my pills actually made my pressure go too high. All fixed now. Look into homeopathic doctors. It is good even if you can get a free consultation to see if it is the way to go. Get in touch with a nutritionist and see if you can gain insight. Cut down on all caffeine sources. Drink lost of water, I could add more but I think I have typed and bored too much all at once. I do apologize if I have overstepped my boundaries. Please let me down kindly if you do not want me to do any more comments. I will understand and will apologize for my intrusion.