New to the group. In the process of divorce. We were married for 11 years. 2 kids, 7 and 9. My wife has wanted the divorce for 2+ years and while I begged her to stay and try to fix things it only pushed her away further. Nobody cheated, no abuse, but we argued a lot, there were other challenges and she fell out of love. She actually said she hasn't been in love for 8 years. It's a miserable hell losing the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with. It's worse when you have nobody close to help you through it. When you're doing it largely on your own its hell. Never knew depression until now. The lows are really low. Hope the rest of you going through tough times can find some kind of peace in your situation.
I am sorry to say that this is sad to hear, my friend. Most people split because of certain triggers or events. But in your case your marriage fell victim to the business of life and grew apart maybe without even knowing it at the start. Ask her if she is willing to go to a weekend seminar that I often recommend here. It is called A Weekend to Remember at https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/. They have helped turn around so many marriages included some of our friends, some even in the middle of divorce. Sometimes we just need to have a proper perspective of what a marriage should be like. Marriages need a lot of work, a lot of maintenance, being there for each other. The seminar is held at many different cities in the U.S. on different weekends. Talk to her if she is willing to try it.
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@TofuOrNotTofu thank you for the suggestion.