Not a good day for me. Last night I was an emotional wreck and blasted him.
How can any man being married for 36 years live the entire time a lie. What sort of person allows themselves that and can live that way. He made friends of these people after he stopped seeing them. WTF. My marriage was a sham and I just want the pain to go away. Who is that person?
Well I don't really know your story but that is definitely a question we all seem to ask ourselves. Did I marry a stranger? I'm sorry your having a rough day. The best advice I can give, which I've been doing myself, is to focus on yourself as much as possible. Do what you need to do to heal from the betrayal and figure out what your next steps are. We are all here if you need to vent.
I have been married for 36 years and a year ago I found out my husband had a 10 year affair. The OW was mad he broke it off and contacted me. She also told me about another affair he had that was also 10 years. After investigation I found out the first affair started in 1984 and never ended until I found out last year. He also had a 7 year affair with another woman overseas. Its all disgusting to me but I see he is desperate to save the marriage. I hate him for what he has done. I have stayed though for the family and for financial reasons. I am 60 and emotionally unstable to make any rash decisions.
Oh wow, that's horrible. I'm sorry to hear that. That's a tough blow to take. I hope you are taking care of yourself as much as possible. It might benefit you to see a therapist if you haven't already. I find it very helpful to come on here and vent when I need to, there are great people here.
Yes it was a terrible shock to the system. I took an overdose one night as could not cope any more. I am in a better place and have been to therapy but emotionally I am all over the place. Its a horrible nightmare but I am learning to cope but I just can't get over how anyone can do this.
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. It is so hard to deal with the lies. It's also difficult to deal with how long. The emotions seem to get the better of me on some days. I hope things get better for you. Please be sure to take care of yourself. Sending you hugs!
My biggest problem is the obsessive thoughts. I found pictures on Facebook of my husband with one of them. She even introduced him to her sons. Guess everyone thought they were a couple. How disgusting. Another one is a school counsellor in Atlanta and she claims to have a 25 year happy marriage and loves life.
You are not alone.
Thanks and I know its a rampant issue. I just never thought it would happen to me.
@Charlie614 I am so sorry this has gone on for most of your marriage. I can't even begin to imagine what you are experiencing. I wish I had some words to comfort you. Just know that many of us here understand and we are all here for you. Please talk on here as much as you need to.
Thank you. Its funny because my sister said "its not what he did, but the way he did it" and I am kind of seeing it that way. And boy he was good at it.
Manipulators are very good at what they do! Unfortunately they only think of themselves and their needs. That's why I hope you are making sure you are taking care of yourself.