My husband and I have been married for two years and have been trying for those two years to have a baby. We were pregnant once over a year and half ago and we miscarried and we have been having problems ever since. I am now seeing a inferility specialist and have been seeing them for two months. This is just so frustrating every month that goes by, month after month waiting, counitng my days, taking my medication, scheduling when to have sex. It has become a full time job. It is not fun anymore. This month I was four days late and became really excited took a test yesterday and it was negative and today started. I know I haven't been doing this that long as others but I just don't know if the heartache every month is really worth it. Everyone says I need to stay positive and it will happen. THat is probably true but how do you stay positive when month after month you have no luck. My poor husband has been my rock through this but I think he is even running out of things to say. This is just as hard on him as it is on me. I just want to me a mom so bad, its the one thing I have always wanted in life.
Everytime I turn around someone it calling me and telling me they are pregnant. I am happy for them but then I also despise them at the sametime. i know its not right but thats how I feel. I want to know when its going to be my turn to share that news.
I also work as nurse in an ER, do you know how hard it is to see dirty people come in and their children are all dirty in stained clothing and they are pregnant with another one. I just don't understand why they get to have all these babies and I can't even have one for myself. I think the kicker was for me when my half sister, who is 17, but was sixteen at the time, was trying yes I said trying to get pregnant and shedid. She can't afford that baby and neither can my sisters mom. I just don't understand. What do I have to do so my husband and I can start our family?
My friend had the same problem, the more she tried the less results she had. Finally, she said that she had it and stopped being anxious. Few months later, she was expecting. I believe, when you step back and relax, you will get pregnant. Have faith and trust in His help, and you will have baby. Say a prayer and God will send you an angel. Believe. God bless you.
Listen I would love children, I dont have a bf. I am 30 and I know my clock is ticking. Everyone around me is having kids and getting married, and me, Im hearing old people and my mom saying its time. On top of it I got diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome and the dr says are u planning to have kids soon. I am so alone in this, and my future is so limbo. I dont know whats certain but I just keep giving it to God. God wants to hear your crys and fears, break down and give your worrys to him. I think you should just keep having all the sex you want, and yes be positive. Its no fun because u are creating this into a chore. Let God help you, and remember if he sees it in your future it will come. I know its always easier to say it then endure it. But if anything be happy you have arms to hold you at night and even if you couldnt have a kid, there are so many children in group homes juust holding a bear wondering when their hope will come. Anyone can have a kid but not anyone can be a mother and father.
BTW, do you really feel the need to add about the poor people who come into your ER with dirty clothes and thier kids are dirty, and you are asking yourself why they can have kids and you can't....Isn't that a little Unfair to them?
I can truly sympathize with you. I've been there..the doctors, medication, planned sex and false hope. I eventually gave it all up and decided to give my body, my husband and my sanity a break. Almost a year later, I went to different doctor and was diagnosed with PCOS. I must have had it for years and had no idea. I'm now being treated for the condition, but I agree with everyone else. God is in control of it all and if it's in your future it will happen for you. If not, there's always a kid out there that would love to be a member of your loving family.
Just wanted to let you know how I know how you feel. We have been trying for three years now and cannot get pregnant again. We had our first child 5 years ago. My husband has a low sperm count and the Doctor said it is nearly impossible for us to get pregnant naturally. We do not want a sperm donor and cannot afford and want to do invitro. I know I have it a lot worse than others but it still is hard. I would give you some advice to get through it, however it is hard to hear it will happen when it happens, it's all of Gods plan, relax etc. I went through some type of grieving cycle with the fact I will not be able to have another. I have had hard time with my brother and sister in-law now having their sixth child and she says she needs a break. This website is wonderful and I think it is great to know their really is other people out there that has the same problem. In time, either things will work out for you or you will be able to work through it.... trust me.