hello everyone,
I think i am worse off than i was yesterday....i don't like this online dating thing at all. I feel depressed at the people i attract. I'm thinking to myself: is that the best i can do?? really??? makes me want to cry :(
Then you got the ones who look at your profile and don't leave a message. people don't apparently.When they do they are the type of people who make you cringe!
I'm at such a loss here....
I understand how you are feeling. I went through the same thing with online dating. Know that you are going to attract all types and it doesn't say anything negative about you whatsoever. I would see who viewed me and didn't send a message, and honestly I just thought...I'm not for them and that's ok because there is the right one for me. This is all a part of the dating process whether online or offline. I met many men last night and most who approached I would never date. Out of all of the men, there was maybe one. That's just like what you're going through online. Try to diversify your dating opportunities. Have you gotten out at all? Try events, whether sporting or cultural. As well, have you tried any other online dating sites. My girlfriends are having a lot of success with eharmony and match.com, although I know that you have to pay for them.
I know that you will get there, this is just a frustrating time. I'm here for you through this "fun" dating journey. We'll get to the right one together, I just know it :-)
I am sorry to hear that, but what you are experiencing is why I do not do the online dating thing. I hope I did not make you cringe...
Hey Girl,
As puppy was saying don't just leave it to online dating but...how long have you been on the site? Don't give up hope hun.
Just have a quick check on your profile, say what you are looking for in a person.
On the dating site there are things like don't email for intimate encounters in mail settings, is that there for yours hun? It may take away some of the unwanted.
I am always changing my profile as my life changes.
So really think about it, this is describing you and you want to hold the attention of a potential date so really sell yourself and what you want.
I've read so many profiles that don't say anything and it makes me just skip messaging them. Really describe yourself and what you've got going for you. Give them a reason to want to speak with you.
Because they surely will deary.
I hope this helps some
Love to you hun
Moongal xx
PS Don't worry about people you're not interested in emailing, it just happens sometimes, it's not meant to depress or insult you, just try and think about that next time you feel a bit down about it.
Heather, just checking in to see how you're doing with online and offline dating. Hope you're happy and smiling.
Single_lady,
You are much too pretty and much too fabulous for those websites. Online dating is not for me, but it works for some. I can see that you are looking for something with more substance, how can you expect to find that online when you are judged by your pix and profile? I think you should give it a rest and get yourself out there, go out, meet some new people. Something else will click. It's fun to get dressed up and just go have a great dinner with friends, and maybe they can bring friends etc etc. Meeting people can be very easy, they're all around you, we just aren't paying attention. Keep me posted, hang in there.
xo, July
I totally agree with July. If you're really frustrated with it, give it a break and get yourself out there. Being out with friends, meeting new people...it seems that's what you need right now. Get out there and enjoy life! I know that you will meet Mr. Right :-)
I have found online dating site to be a waste of time .
So many shallow people not to mention scam artist galore.
when are they going to make it a crime for a scammer to impersonate a nice human being.
I have to agree with you on that Mrbipolardad, hence why I'm not dating online. Although, I've seen success stories and don't want to discourage someone if it's a possibility for them to meet someone. But on the whole, I just don't see it as a positive for me.
i'm not sure what to think! lol
I really am not having any luck on the online dating scene at all. People visit your profile but don't leave messages. I have talked to a few that i initiated, but nothing that led to a date.
I am talking to married guy again.....but relax everyone i am still going out there and looking for MY man! :)
I'll keep you posted!
Thanks for the compliments and advice :)
Oh no, you're talking to the married guy? How did that start up again? I am just worried that you are going down a bad path with him that will not end well. Please be careful.
And re; online dating...give it a mini break. Maybe don't log-in for a bit and then re-visit next week if you feel up for it.
hi puppy,
i did go down the wrong path.....i ended up having to leave work because i could'nt keep myself composed. When am i going to learn? what is it going to take???
Don't be hard on yourself over it, we've all had little slip ups here and there. We are human after all. Though, the key is that you know and understand that you went down the wrong path, hence your needing to leave work. Just try to look ahead at this point, you had your mini blip, now it's time to look ahead. Keep reminding yourself of where you are in your life, what you would like for yourself, and work towards that. I know you can do it!
but i feel like i can't :(
i'm such a mess right now....i have a headache from crying and i feel like my life is meaningless................
Why do you feel like you can't? Don't let this get you down; I know that's so much easier said than done, but let's work on getting you through this and to a happy place about everything.
Also, your life is so full of meaning, please don't feel like it's meaningless. There is so much that you should look forward to. Think of the future that you want and work towards that one step and one day at a time.
Single!!
Please give me the play by play. How did married man come back in the picture? What does he have that makes you so powerless over him? Did you contact him first? It would be so helpful to understand more in order for me to see why you keep setting yourself up for disappointment. Do you feel he is playing with you? I GET that putting yourself out there is hard, annoying, etc etc and that it's just easier to talk and hang with guys that already know you (ie married guy). But as frustrating as it is, once you get over the hump, things will be better. I never thought I'd want to meet someone after my ex and I broke up. But I did, and I'm so happy I did. All takes time. Please fill me in, I'm sorry you're going through this again. UGH MARRIED MAN!! (he makes me so upset)
xo, July
Yes, getting a better idea of what's going on and why will help us help you through this. And, I know how unappealing getting out there can be at times, most especially when you have a bad experience or two, but it's truly worth it. I know that you'll find your right one.
Hey Single Lady,
I hope you are feeling better today, just keep talking it out here hun, we are here for you. You are not alone and we all feel a mess sometimes.
I'm not sure what happened with you and that married man, but whatever it is hun, we are here to support you, so don't forget that.
Love to you
Moongal x
hi everyone,
ok.....this is the play by play.
Yes i asked him to call me, Which i did'nt think he would. Well, he did. for an hour we talked about what made us split and whatnot.
We talk but not as much as we use to which was all day long via text. I don't know what his power over me is.....i decided to take a break from the online dating. I still have an active profile but its just too depressing right at the moment.
i do want to be friends with him.....and i do realize that i can't have him in the way i would like.
I know, you are all probably shaking your heads right about now....
You understand that you two cannot be friends. I really hate to say it, but you can't. You two shared intimate moments, he is married, and the feelings are too strong.
There is only one thing that you can do; walk away...actually, RUN don't walk. You have to close that toxic door, because I promise that nothing good will come of it. I am afraid you are setting yourself up for more heartbreak. He is selfish, where he wants his cake and wants to eat it too.
Don't you want so much more for yourself? I want you to have love, happiness, and fulfillment that you deserve.