OMG WTF!!! OKAY SO LAST NIGHT I TALKED TO JOSHUA WHICH IS ANNAS FATHER... I HAVENT TALKED TO HIM SINCE I FOUND OUT THAT ANNA WAS DIED... AND NOW HE WANTS ME TO MOVE BACK DOWN THERE AND HAVE ANOTHER BABY WITH HIM AND HE PROMISED THAT HE WOULDNT STREE ME OUT AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO...
Hi Ready1, can you give me a bit more insight on your relationship with Joshua, and share whatever you feel comfortable sharing with me. I want to be able to give you the proper support and help.
okay where should i start with him........ omg Joshua David Conley... lol when i first meet him i hated him and everything about him i didnt want him no closer then like 75 feet or more... we got into the night that we met and i told me that it would be a old day in hell before he would ever get a change with me, and later on that night he asked for my number threw his friend TJ which was my sisters boyfriend at that time.. Tj gave Josh my number and he txted me and we talked and talked for hours and hours.. and i still didnt like him much... then after like 2 months we started dating and he was like sooooo sweet we hung out everyday from when he went to school until it was time for him to go to sleep...as people began to find out that we were dating things went up in smoke at frist my mom loved joshua until he moved in... thats another story... but while we were dating my mom and i got into so many fights because of him and i couldnt let him no matter what and i didnt know why...after our 3 and 4 month of dating he went from GOOD to BAD and i didnt know why.. josh was my everything after awhile when he notice that he had me and he knew that i wasnt going to leave him.. he started cheating on me and lying to me... he would leave my house to go out of town to go see another chick that i knew( this is after i put him out)... and i didnt trip because i trusted him.. but that back fried on me.. i found out that he slept with my play sister Ashley and she said that she was pergo by him.. and that was hard to deal with later on i found out that i was having josh's baby... and by this time i was already like 2 months pergo... so i told him and he believed me at first but he didnt want to... so like 2 weeks later josh came out to the house(before i moved out) and he touch my belly to feel the baby's heartbeat and it was like the sweetest thing ever.. and at that time all i wanted was him there to support me... once he left that when he started putting me back threw more stress that i didnt need.. i spoke with josh and i told him that i was moving because i didnt want to raise my baby in Justice IL (a place in Chicago that his mom lived in) and i told him that i was going to move to BELTON MO AND I TOLD HIM THAT ANNA AND I WAS GOING TO STAY WITH MY BESTFRIEND... and he said that he was going to blow up my moms house and whole lot of stuff but he told me that he wasnt going to i was going to stay with him or leave without him i was going to my live on the line for him.. like a few after that i was like 4 months and i as waiting for him to come home and when he got home he told that he losted his football game and we got into it.. i was 4 1/2 months and i was still so very stress and i was at a friends house and i had these pains that wouldnt stop and i had to go to the doctor and thats how i found out that Anna was gone.. thank you for listen i hope it wasnt to much
Ready1, in my opinion I wouldnt give this guy another chance. I understand that u my have feelings or love this guy, but dont put yourself threw the stress of worrying about if he is gonna be true to you. I you feel as though you wanna have another child, do it with someone who is all about YOU. Pregnancy is supposed to be a blessing and not a burden,so focus on you for now, and if he is truly for you he will get it together. Sorry for your lost.
Dont do it.
You're young sweetie, live life and do whats best for you. Don't let him pressure you into doing something you're not ready for yet.
Amen Sisters. This would be the biggest mistake you will make in your life. Get away from him. Cut all ties. Let the sorrow of your loss begin to diminish. It will never completely go away but you will find a way to handle it in a sane and mature manner as time passes by and you can gain some perspective on the entire situation.
Please do not return to him. It will only be heartache and torment for you. He will not change. Just like Maya Angelou said, "When someone SHOWS you who they are, believe them". I think he has shown you what kind of man he is. You deserve better. You deserve a man who will love and respect you. One who will rejoice in the beautiful gift the Lord will give you to take care for, love and nurture.
Right now you are vulnerable and he is taking advantage of that. Keep your head on straight with regard to a relationship with this man. It is not right for you.
I am praying for you to be strong and do what God leads you to do and God will never lead you into a relationship where a man treats a woman like he has treated you.
Ready1, thank you so much for giving us so much more insight into your ex. You are such a warm, loving and caring woman who deserves the world and beyond. All that I read throughout your description of your relationship with him was primarily so negative. I truly believe that in life, when you are with the wrong person, you can get dragged backwards energetically and your life can easily spiral downwards. He was and will continue to rub off his negativity onto you, and do you really want that for your life? Do you want a man who has treated you so poorly and cheated on you numerous times? If you can sit down and list out all of the negatives about him, and remind yourself of these things in weak moments, because this will give you strength to move on. Then, list out everything that you want for yourself, all of your hopes, goals and dreams for a beautiful and healthy relationship. This exercise really helped me move on from a very bad relationship. When you are feeling vulnerable, that's when these guys prey on us and rope us back in, so gather your strength and you will get past this.
Try not to communicate with him, this will make this process of completely moving on so much easier. I do believe that your instincts were warning you against him from the onset when you had no feelings or emotions for him, nor would you have considered dating him. Also, the fact that he caused so much turmoil with you and your mom is another big sign that he does not have good energy.
I know that this time is not easy, I am here to hold your hand through this. Please know that you are never ever alone. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Thank you all so so so much for your advice and support....
I understand that i shouldnt do and trust me i really dont want to becasue Josh has already put me threw so much and sometimes i cant hadle everything by my self i mean im 16 and im just looking for the kinda love from a guy... my dad has been in and out of my life for a long time and ive always wantd to be daddys little girl but when i was 12 all that went away and you guys know what it feels like to want that love from a guy if your father has never been in your life or if you never even met him.. I keep trying not to talk to him so he messages me on facebook and he tells my friends to tell me stuff and i dont know how to tell him to leave me the f alone.. you know that he asked me wasi just playing about me lossing the baby or did i say she died so that he couldnt see her... you know sometimes as a young girl i get tried of guys all trying to play with my heart but now i have a girlfriend that lives with me and you know i love her with all of my heart but she was pergo before but she had an abortion so she doest know what its like and i cant talk to her about it because she is upset that she cant get me pergo and she hates Josh..
Maybe its time to let the cops step in. If youre serious about getting him out of your life. Just a thought.
Ready1, try to document absolutely everything that he sends you in terms of communication such as texts, emails, Facebook messages, etc. This way, if you decide to go to the police then you have all of the documentation as evidence. Can you write him an email simply letting him know that you have moved on and that you would like for him to stop all communications with you. Keep it short, sweet and to the point. Please let me know how things continue to progress for you. I am here for you.
He is not worth your time Ready1. You know that I am here for you anytime you need to talk. Don't let him stress you out.
Ready1, how is everything progressing? Has he still been bothering you? I hope that he has left you alone and that all is well.
yea he has been a little easy on always calling and stuff but i mean im really over him i mean since ive been on here ive learned to let go and relax and i know that no matter what happen in the past i have to look to the futrue and know that there is more imortant things in life to worry about.. and i need to live my teenage life... but i just want to let you guys know that you dont have to call me ready one you can call me Champaign
I'm glad your doing ok Champaign
hahhahahhahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha....... well thank you Melissa.... BTW i love your name i wish my name was Melissa lol
That would be pretty cool for us to have the same name lol. Thank you lol.
lol yea it would be lol... so what do you like to do for fun?
Champaign, love that name, beautiful! I am so happy to hear that he has let up on communication. And, I absolutely love your attitude and outlook about focusing on the future. You are a Star and have a beautiful future ahead of you :-)
Champaign, I like hanging out with friends, listening to music, and watching movies. I love being with friends though lol.