Hello all. I am 21 will be 22 in 2 weeks. I am a senior and just got an amazing internship at my dream cooperation. I recently found out I was pregnant. I am about 6.5 weeks pregnant. I have been with the childs father for over 4 years since I was 16. We recently have been on the rocks. We broke up in June and he started seeing another girl. He denied he was seeing her. Ever since he has been talking to this new girl we have been on and off. He is now living with her but comes to see me daily and says how much he loves me and that "we will always be together" I explained to him how much I need help right now especially me being pregnant with his child. He wants me to keep it and is overly excited. I am feeling very lonely. My parents are not fond of the father and never have been. They are haunting me everyday of how my life will be like and how I will have to deal with the father for the rest of my life If I choose to keep the child. I know in my heart I do not want to do it but in my situation I am stuck. The father is financially, emotionally, and mentally not able to take care of a child let along help me with any needs during my pregnancy. He is seeing someone else and i'm in it alone..I am already a single mother and its my worst fear let along being in school still and having an amazing internship. I have no idea what to do. I can't even think but I know I need to decide soon. I have had an abortion with the father when I was 18 and was emotionally and mentally depressed and took almost 2 years to calm down. My friends and family do support me but their obvious decision is to have an abortion. I feel awful bringing a child into this world with an absent father. I am also scared of what my future will be like. If anyone has any advise please. Thanks
Your are very vulnerable, would be wise to stay away from the boyfriend as you described he has not a clue what hes creating & sounds like he MAY be burning the candle at both ends & telling you what YOU want to hear & this will be emotionally painful for all to have him being so indecisive w/peoples lives. As for you, have you thought of adoption options/alternatives, as there are many good folks that would be capable of loving/raising a beautiful baby. I would also have a paternity test incase you decide to have your baby & want to seek support of any kind from the boyfriend. You're taking alot on your shoulders as it sounds like you have alot of excellant opportunities that await you & not alot of people get that chance in life & you are a single parent already & could make things better for you & your child in the long run & not have to rely/depend on someone else thats unreliable, I'd listen to your parents & lean on them.
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April has great advice. School and your internship are very important, and, if you are strong enough to seek help, I think you can make it. Adoption is a beautiful gift to give your child. He or she will have a wonderful life, and one day that little one can see that you made a choice that gave you both better lives even though it was very hard.
I'm new to this thing, but I hope you take heart in the people who love and believe in you. Adoption is a loving option for you all. Another abortion will only hurt you again and cost your baby his or her future. Every adopted person I know is immensely grateful. Peace.
Strongly consider adoption. There is a wonderful couple out there somewhere who would give your baby a great life.