Out and dating or closeted and safe. I live in a household where gay is synonymous with dirt, where being an atheist is like telling my mum i hate her.
I'm forced to go to church every sunday( despite being 15) and I'm currently closeted in a school where people ( including some of my friends ) call other people faggots as a joke.
However, London does have antihomophobic laws and I will be supported by my teachers and some friends...
I also know I'd lose some.
Should I come out as gay?
Should I come out as atheist?
should I date at 15?( adding that one on cause i feel lonely : ( .)
I would say keep yourself safe. Come out to those who you feel safe with. It can be very painful to not be yourself. At the same time, you depend on someone who is homophobic for your well being, I can understand why you would feel hesitant to come out to them. As far as the atheism goes, could you just tell your mom you don't want to go to church? You may not need to specify that you are an athiest. The word might freak her out. I am sorry you can't be yourself around your own family. Date at 15? I would tell my children to do well in school and have fun but not date, whether gay or not. But that is probably out of touch for most people.
It would take some time for your family to get used to the fact your gay and an atheist. I think in the long run it would be better for you and your family to know where everyone stands. In the short term however it may be painful for you and your family. As for dating I would guess it would depend on how many young people have come out as gay in your school/community. You are at the age where those things start to become important. It is not a big deal if you choose to wait too as you are young and there will be plenty of time to explore your tastes and beliefs.
Thanks for the advice!!! I've decided not to date or come out ( knowing what my mother's reaction would be) , to focus on my studies and to stay in church. While I might cringe at the occasional homophobic gay bashing speech, the foods great, the people are nice and I could try see if I could open the eyes of some of the youth.
Ok Lord Snow...lol...ive tried to post you like two times!!! Every time I hit POST i get an error message! Do you mind adding me as a supporter? REEAAALLLY want to send you this message...lol.