Hello,
I am 22 yrs old and i have no parents. I lost my dad on May 15, 2001 and i lost my mom August 22, 2010. I have custody of my 16 yrs old brother and i am rasing him. Life is so hard right now for me and i just need a a little support other then my fiance and family.
Hey Kathryn, I replied to you on summergirls post. Your not alone & we're here to talk/vent/share anytime you feel like it. How wonderful that your raising your brother & took him under your wing, that can be overwhelming at times, my heart goes out to you. Feel free to talk about anything you want.
I lost my mother in '81 to brain cancer & my dad died when I was 9, my brother died in '95 he was a heavy equipment diesel mechanic.
Take care of you.
April (mother of 2 boys 18 & 26)
thanks April. Its very hard and. this thanksgiving will be my first thanksgigvng with out my parents. I am holding up ok. i just missed them so much.
I understand......how bout making the holidays a celebration in their honor w/2 extra settings at the table in memory of them & talking about the funny/fun/fond times you & brother remember, even if there are tears too.
I'll be thinking of you.
April
that sounds like a good idea but i do not think we are ready to do that. im just so lost woth out my mom. i am ascared cause i am on my own with my little brother (well and my fiance). lucky the house is in a trust fund and we get to stay in it untill my little brother is 21 and also there is enough money in the trust fund to keep up woth the bills. i thank god everyday for that. i also have an older sister also, but i havent talked to her in awhile
How wonderful that some of the harder issues have been taken care of in advance as she truly had your best interests at heart. There isnt a day that goes by that I dont think of my mom & then again she raised me so I have alot of her in me, as do you w/your mom so remember that. Would be wise when you feel a little more up to it to contact your older sister as she may be able to lend advice from her experiences that may ease anything that comes up in the future. I have 2 sisters left & talk to one more then the other cause the other one isolates herself alot & thats made it harder to get ahold of her most times & I try to not take it personally & I understand.
Its gonna be ok honey, I'll be thinking of you.
April
Everything will be okay, i support you along with everyone else, we are here for you. You continue working hard and all of it will pay off. i also had alot of people close to me pass away, my friend passed away from dying of cancer at the age of 17, so i know how you feel, hang in there.
Thanks and i know all the hard work will pay off. i am glad i find this website. I just miss them so much. its hard i am only 22 yrs old and rasing my 16 year old brother. I was had my mom to depend on and take care of me now i am on my own (besude my family and my fiance. i see a grieving counclor evry week and thats helping a little bit.
Good for you & I'm 54 & STILL find it hard sometimes to stand on my own its very lonely even w/people around us some dont realize how scary it can be.....I DO.
All my strengths.
April
Thanks, Today isn't going so good. My brother is at school and my fiance is at work and I am home all alone. I hate being alone it makes me think of everything. Like What if my mom was still alive, Or ewhat would my life be with both parents, what if my fiance leaves me, what if i die right now what would people think. I don't have any susicde thoughts. Its a rainy day today and that makes me think some more. But i will get though today and every other day that comes by. I think I am just gonna cry my self to sleep until one of them comes home.
hope all is well,
kathryn
Yea, that doesnt feel good to be alone, I have 2 dogs that I rescued after my 14yr. old dog died in'05' & Hurricane Katrina hit these dogs were left/abandoned on a farm w/other types of animals cause millions of people had to evacuate Louisana, heck I was 200 miles from ground zero & still had alot of damage, costs were well over $20,000 & of course the Insurance Co. has their way of not paying much for it UGH.....I'm originally from California, born & raised & had only experienced earthquakes NOT HURRICANES, anyway the dogs are a comfort to me.....of course one of them is licking their butt right now YUK, so I told him to STOP.
Whats making you think your fiance' would ever leave you???? I'm sure thats not the case & I'm sure hes well aware you've been through so much that you will need alot of time & understanding even though from my experience GUYS work through things differently (bugs me sometimes, the quietness or them not expressing/communicating at least a lil bit). What grades your brother in? You'd said hes 16 so I assume sophomore/junior?
Talk to you later, April
I have 8 cats and my moms dog so i know how your dogs comforts you. I siad that about my fiance because i am always in a mood and i always have an attitude towards him and he tells me he had enough. I really dnt know what my brothers grade is cause he has been out of school for 2 years helping me take care of my mom, so he is in the alternvie school thats works on credicts.
WOW 8 cats & 1 dog, that would be a mini zoo :-) It is hard for people surrounding/close to the situation to see the sadness & feel helpless as to HOW TO fix it & dont realize that simple things over time can be helpful like just sitting together snuggling or words of encouragement,saying/doing uplifting things while you push through thoses feelings together. Life is always going to knock us down at any given time so its up to us in how are perception is of it. Do you focus on your brothers school work to help him catch up as I'm sure that can be a downer for him too?
Im so sorry to hear about the loss of your parents. Its hard to lose someone that you love. Your such a strong person to go through all that but also take care of your yonger brother. He is so lucky to have you. I just resently lost my daughter. It sure isnt easy just like i know losing your parents isnt easy. Everyone says that things will get easier as time goes by but can't help to wonder when. Your in my thoughts and prayers.
thank you so much and I am truly sorry about your daughter. It is very hard and people say that to me to. My dad has been dead for 9 yrs and it is still hard.. I try to be strong. i will keep you and thoughts and prayers also. If you dnt mind me asking how did she pass and how old and when? Its ok if you dnt wanna talk about. i understand
I was 6 1/2 months pregnant with here. She had passed before i even gave birth to her. It was the hardest thing i have ever had to go through in my life. She was very sick, she had a large cystic hygroma on her neck and a lot of fluid through out her body. If you ever need to talk let me know. I know it sometimes helps to talk about it. Just know that you are not alone. Hope things will start to look up for you very soon....
Sending hugs your way!!
oh i am so sorry. and thanks.same to to you wanna talk im hear to listen.
sending hugs back
My two oldest nephews, who are 40 and 38 now, and are brothers, had lost both of their parents by the time they were 22 and 19. They first lost their dad in 1988 when they were 18 and 15. It was hard after they lost their dad. Their mom, my sister, didn't do too well after their dad's death. Both boys wound up living with family members. My oldest nephew moved in with my mom a few months after his dad's death. My youngest nephew moved in with a cousin of his after his dad's death. I am however proud to say they both finished High School and got their diplomas a few years after their dad died. My sister died in 1992. Their dad was 56 when he died. My sister was 41 when she died. My sister was my only sibling. My dad died when I was 8 years old. When he died, my sister had already married and left home so it was just my mom and me. Somehow, some way, with God's help, we all made it through the hard times. We are a small family now but full of lots of love for each other. My mom is still living. She is 84. I love her dearly and always am thankful for having her in my life. Hang in there and take it one day at a time. You both will make it. ((((hugs))))
oh wow. I lost my dad at 13 and my brother 6 and my dad was 47. My brother ans I are 22 and 16. i gratdued in 08 and my brother is in school and trying to get his diploma. I know we will make it through the hard times. i am a small family as well. Thanks for taking the time to talk
Today was ok. Christmas was better then i thought it would be. we got snow yesterday. i have the flue and it sucks.