Parents learn how to bully proof their children

This is a great article that discusses a parents' workshop and how they learned to bully-proof their children;

"Bullying is a behavior that ridicules, humiliates or harms another person.

There are physical bullies, verbal bullies, relational bullies and cyberbullies who use modern technology to inflict hurt.

Some aspects of bullying are changing because the Internet and cell phones make it easier for cyberbullies to spread messages using text messaging and Facebook.

And more and more kids are bringing cell phones to school with Internet access.

Parents who attended a bullying workshop Thursday evening at Landrum Middle School learned those facts about bullying and more, including how to help their children confront and stop it, whether the taunts are directed at themselves or others.

The hour-long event, presented by national bullying expert Mike Dreiblatt, was sponsored by the Ponte Vedra Public Education Foundation.

Principal Wayne King said the program, which was also presented to students and staff that day, was held "to create awareness" of a problem that is not new, but that is becoming more complex.

At Landrum, "we don't have massive issues with bullying," he said. "But it's deeper than face-to-face anymore."

Dreiblatt, whose company Balance Education Services is based in Vermont, held a total of five workshops that day. He gave hour-long presentations to sixth-, seventh- and eighth-graders and an after-school workshop to faculty, during which he focused on helping participants identify, stop and prevent bullying.

At the parent workshop, he presented "bully-proofing plan of action" techniques that parents can teach their children. If bullied in person, it's important for the child to stay calm, tell the bully to stop, and after making quick eye contact, walk away, he said.

He also advised parents how to work with the school if their child is being bullied, including how to set up a safety plan.

Forty-three states have bully prevention laws and Florida is one of them, Dreiblatt said.

If a bullying incident starts on campus, a school is responsible for taking action by coming up with a plan to stop it.

But with the Internet and cell phones, sometimes cyberbullying starts during off-school hours and continues to cause problems during school, Dreiblatt said.

Parents need to know that "when off-campus behavior impacts in-school learning, the school can get involved."

King said that students are not supposed to bring cell phones to school, but many do. He said they text each other and post Facebook messages during bathroom breaks, which is becoming a "massive distraction" to learning and an ongoing potential bullying treat.

If a student wants to make bullying remarks about another student, they can do it via texting and spread the message to many other students, he said.

Since kids are under "tremendous social pressure" to have a cell phone, and to communicate with each other over the Internet, Dreiblatt advised parents to set rules.

At home, he said parents should keep the family computer in a common area such as the living room or kitchen so they can monitor the sites their children are using. And they should discuss Internet and cell phone etiquette and post rules next to the computer.

Recent national bullying cases that have led to victims committing suicide have focused media attention on bullying, Dreiblatt said. But he said bullying is not increasing, it is just changing, and so is society's attitude toward it.

The attitude used to be that "boys will be boys and girls will be girls," he said.

"Bullying is a part of childhood, but it's not a desirable part."

After the workshop, parent Sara Gravelle said she was surprised to learn how much cell phones are a distraction in school. "Parents think kids are following the rules," she said.

Louanne King said she found the event "very informative."

'I was surprised by the amount of cyberbullying going on," she said. "I didn't realize how serious it is.'"

Source: The Florida Times, by Maggie Fitzroy

it always amazes me that simple steps need reinforcing when u think its not been that long that the internet and cells have been on the market for the general public really.

but as far as i am aware if u phone the cell provider they can track any numbers that go to your childs or even your own phone and give u a hard copy to use with the police or whoever to stop this type of thing over the phones,

i dont know enough about the net to offer suggestions there do computers have parental locks? so u can limit sites and times? or do u have a way of finding where they go when surfing?

but great post

as always loving thoughts and positive vibes
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Domestic, great points as always. There are so many tools available nowadays for parents to monitor and block certain sites and cells. And one can absolutely track numbers. I went through a pretty awful bullying phase where I was being harassed via my cell, I was able to print the records of text messages and incoming calls for the police.


there u are u can teach an old dog new tricks ive found the history page/sheet or whatever its called on the computer.

glad to know these things are about for protection

loving thoughts and positive vibes
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