He is drifting from me.
He tells me he doesn't have to even call me but he did.
He doesn't want to spend his breaks calling home.
He is angry. "Guilt-tripped" he says.
What am I going to do? I thought my heart couldn't break anymore but he acts like he hates me. I don't know why. I don't know what I did. Ever since he hung out with his friend on Saturday.
No matter what I say, he doesn't understand. He refuses. He used to care. Now he treats me with resentment and impatience. My only friend. What did I do?
What can I do?
I don't know if I can keep fighting. I don't know that I want to.
is it possible to set aside some time to have a talk about where you stand with each other. may i suggest that it not be a work day as the stress from the day would overflow into your conversation time. maybe on the weekend you could have a whee do we stand conversation. just my experience with my husband and it works for us
Wiffy, you are so unbelievably kind to even respond to my stupid stupid post. Last night we did end up talking. I think maybe something good came out of it. I hope so. I just feel so blind and alone and tired and sick. It's just, he really in 10 years has never treated me this way. Not even when he had an affair. Our relationship isn't the picture of health, never has been but his attitude has always been everything (even if somethings have been the opposite) a girl with BPD could ask for. Kind, devoted, committed, loving, secure, protective... I have been so afraid I'm losing this lifeline. Thank you so much, taking the time to talk when we aren't stressed about other things and already on edge is such a great point,, I will remember it in the future. Thank you.
oh sweetheart again your not stupid with the posts and we need to vent and vent here will help you get your head/emotions in chekc before killing the man when he walks in the door (been there) so please hun, anytime i’m here yap or vent away hun
Thank you so much Micheal, your post made me smile. It's funny how I always tell people that same thing and then promptly forget to apply it to myself. Thank you so much for your kindness and for reminding me :)
I mean what i said to you, and Kathy is wise. I can't talk about girl stuff YUK hehehehe.
talk to me any time you like, i'll always respond. Well sometimes i swear these threads get so conveluted that i click on a link in my email and goodness knows where it will bring me, no joke this time.
Keep trying, don't quit, keep your chin up. and yell, kick or scream at me i'll listen and answer.
lol Now you really made me laugh. yes, Kathy (you) are so great!
I know what you mean by convoluted, sometimes it is a trip to see where one subject can take us. Thank you so much, I will remember. I hope that you are having a really great day.
ohh me as i am if i can bring a smile or a laugh even better, thats a good thing…your most welcome hun much love to you hun and you have a great thrusday
yeah it's like this big puzzle you think you are going to the moon and end up at mars via jupiter. Hey, sorta like gambling, roll of the dice and i loose LOL.
i do believe humor is a good healer, it's great to help someone but rule number one HAVE FUN. Things suck enough to just dwell on bad stuff.
Even though getting the bad out of you is a good healer also. My dilema shall i be serious all the time or inject fun. I guess both, if i make a mistake i can always blame Kathy HEHEHEHE.
Now she's going to tell me off, good thing she's in Texas and i'm in Nebraska. Plus i'll deny everything lol.
HAHAHAHAHAHA, well if you are rolling the dice on this website I judge that you are winning. But I don’t know about being so lucky Kathy lives far away, us girls have to stick together
Make sure you each have an activity that you do separate from each other and one that you do together that are fun. Fun differs for everyone for us it is going for walks together and going wine tasting together. For me it is quilting and bunco. for my husband it is reading SF/Fantasy books and playing on the computer. (I am still trying to get him to get involved in a social activity with others). It really helps to have planned activities to do.
Thank you so much tools. It's hard sometimes, we live in one bedroom so we are stuck together and we really do like all the same things. Well everything except a song or movie here and there and there are a few things I do that he doesn't. We also suck at planning stuff... well he does but that's a guy thing I guess. I think we are uber co-dependent but he is learning not to be while I am still stuck relying on him for everything.
my husband and i were sickly co-dependent in our early years and it was quite unhealthy for us but we did’nt realize it at the time…becoming un co-dependent is a painful process but the results are freeing. you keep at it hun, you’ll get there
Hello Me-as i am,,
Well it happened again, NONE of the links in my email lead me to the response or thread. Unless it's a guy thing and i can't read lol.
Yeah well i couldn't think of another analogy bedides the old term "roll of the dice". Luck of the draw would've meant the same. I've been thinking and it all comes up with those terms,
I knew when i used that term i'd be caught lol. I even thought oh **** this is going to bite me, oh well i never said i was perfect so there.
And you ladies can come hunt me down but i live in a concrete bunker 2 stories underground with a rabbit as a gaurd dog. His name is thumper and he knows morse code HEHEHEHE.
HAHAHA, 30 lashes i eat noodles for lunch, maybe even supper. Good luck finding my bunker it's GPS proof.
Just got done with this weeks paperwork, how fun. Years ago when i started my little business my pay was so sporadic that i became scared to pay the bills, even though i had the money. I tell ya that was real hard to get rid of. It's amazing what can set you off, something as silly as writing a check.
Anyway I say everyone have a great day, lashes and all. lol
love your sense of humor hun. these days i’m right with ya mike, the littlest of things can put me on the edge…somehow knowing that it will pass keeps me from acting out most of the time. i just run my mouth which really is a help…my husband had learned how to act/react accordinly most the time. life is hard folks and with issues we have it is all the harder. it’s sure nice to have support from you all. not lashes this time mike hehe
me - not quite sure what advice to give here but just wanted to send you my love and wish you all the best. keep going i'm here for you if you need support! xxxxx
