my daughter was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian and lung cancer.. she is grateful to be alive. she was invited to a unforgettable prom and was given dresses none of them had fit her. when we were going to get more dresses for her the sizes kept getting bigger and bigger. when she came out to show us the dresses and how they looked on her she was looking at everyone else. my daughters prom is a month away and a lot has changed in her. she portions her own meals. she doesn't eat like she used to anymore. she always makes sure shes doing something to stay away from the kitchen. im afraid my daughter is developing anorexic traits.. is there anyway to calmly try and bring this subject up to her? try and get her some help? is there any advice to deal with this? im really afraid for my daughter.
Hi Ashlct, thank you for being here with us and for sharing. I am so happy that you are here with us. I am a recovered bulimic and what continued pushing me further and further into my eating disorder was constant comments on my weight. No one really knew what was going on with me, but if someone would have sat me down one-on-one to ask if I was really okay then that may have made a difference. I think that it's all in the approach which has to be very delicate and just a conversation, so that it's not perceived as criticism or judgement. This link can be very helpful, as there is also a phone number that you can call for advice; http://www.eatingdisordersonline.com/.
Please let me know if you have any questions anytime. Please know that we are here for you.
I was on the opposite end of this being 14 years old and confronted by my mother about my eating disorder. like puppydoglvr said its a sensitive subject and many people react differently to the conversation. i know i first lied and then after finally admitting I felt so lost. I wasn't ready for recovery, but she knew and obviously wanted me better. This was all very scary for me. So you have to understand is that she's probably very confused. It's like having this voice inside your head thats making you act this way, but you don't realize until you're so far in its too late to change all on your own. I know I did and said things that I'm sure made her feel horrible. Just know thats Ed and not your daughter. And recovery together honestly brought me and my mom so much closer together. I'll be praying for you two. And let me know if you need anything.
Annvoice122, thank you so much for sharing your experience and giving us such good insight. You are so right in that it's really no longer the person who you knew because they have been overtaken by the ED, and it's good to know that when you are helping them overcome this.