Please I really need help. I’ve had this problem since I can remember and now I lost my job and might go to jail because of it. I’m scared and am in DESPERATE NEED OF HELP! Please help me! Please!!!!
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Can you recall what you were feeling the first time you started to do it. I'm not a psychologist but I firmly believe people start doing this for a reason, like acting out, like it is with any addiction we use as an escape or crutch. The reason I believe this is my daughter started to do it when I went through my divorce. So I believe she was acting out her emotions into that thing she was doing. Like it was an escape or something to cover her emotions she was experiencing or maybe like a cry for help. But because it is a poor choice of a way to deal with it, now you have come to this fork in the road of life, where you have to deal with the reasons you started to begin with because you never dealt with it back then. It also sounds like you need a mediator, like maybe an attorney or someone you can get solid advice from, also a counselor. My first inclination would be to tell your boss or whomever you stole from the fact you need help and it is an addiction and you knew you needed help and then go to counseling. Maybe the person would forgive you, and let you pay restitution rather than letting the law get involved. But I don't want to tell you to do that without legal counsel because that may cause more problems and I'm not a lawyer or attorney. Do you have family, any person you trust you can talk to, maybe a pastor or elder from church you can go to, that you trust? It seems you need local support to get through this crisis. How about your parents. Can you talk to them? Sad as it is to say, you may have to turn yourself in, take your lumps, and maybe the system will help you get help if you get a very merciful judge. I really do think everyone deserves a second chance. My own step father embezzled money from his employers business many years ago. He is dead now. But back then he drove himself insane because of the guilt. Sometimes we punish ourselves more than others would, with guilt.
I don’t remember the first time doing it, but my dad left my mom and I when I was 2, they had a NASTY divorce, and it finalized when I was six, that’s when I remember getting a phone call from some dude saying he was my dad, I assume that’s when it started but I’m not sure. And I already have the police involved, I am just waiting to see if they press charges. And I told my boss about this addiction, last night and today, I was on this site last night, and tried posting for help, and today when I got fired cause of all of this, he showed me this site and said I should go to it, and I said I already have last night and he said that was a good thing.
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@HannahKingsley It sounds like whether the breakup of your parents and your estrangement with your father was the reason you started, at the very least this was a very traumatic event in your life. When my daughter went through the divorce or her parents, and then she started lying and stealing, an also started to push other children, I knew it had to be nipped in the bud, to be dealt with while she was young enough to outgrow it because the older we get, the longer we do something, then it becomes a habit. Did your parents ever find out about your weaknesses and missteps in this area of your life? I’m so sorry about your father. Sometimes, when a child loses their father, for a period of time, like I did because my father went to prison, the child may deny how not having their parent impacted them, hurt them, or maybe not even know the impact until adulthood. I hope you don’t mind my asking, did your father play a larger role in your life from then on? It must have been difficult making these adjustments.