To me, if I were in denial then I wouldn't be feeling this. I've done my fair share of crying and even having adrenaline attacks, to the point of being under hand. I ask you, if I were in denial wouldn't I have a feeling of dread of anger? But i only feel love, love and lots of hope. I don't know if that means i'm deluded or crazy - or even the beliefs and faith that I have. I wish I knew for certain. But that's it. Am I doubting truth? Am I listening? If someone says or promises things but also says that they cannot be...? What is it? Would you hold out on life for someone? Wait for them in the hope and love that they'd get well? This is a love I cherish, but am I blinded?
Martha, as long as you are sure and honest about what you personally desire for yourself you are not in denial. Because no person can tell you how to approach and analyze your very own thoughts, ideas, moods and goals. Now, if your choices involve someone or other people then the matter shifts to whether or not you each are sure and honest about common circumstances or mutual conditions. Because by civil rights, you each have the privilege of judging conditions based on personal observation.
See the matter this way. If some person is having back pain and their discription of the pain is spoken to you as acute pain. Well, unless you are suffering by the exact, same back injury, you might not understand the acute and instead refer to the pain as mild. You could easily deny the pain all together and say that it is really no big deal to you, But by just saying it is only mild or nothing to you does not change the situation or opinion for the one actually suffering the acute pain, see the picture?
It's very true what you say, though does seeing things in my way mean that i'm wrong? Does kmowing the 'back pain' will die eventually and pushing forth this idea mean that my desires are selfish? Does wanting that pain to go so the other person can see your point of view, is that wrong? Is wanting that other person to feel that nothin is holding them back wrong too? I know that i'm opinionated and stubborn but the one thing in my life that went right. This pain got in the way. It's like it caused the rift. It caused the break. It pushed us apart. I'm a fiesty girl and I will quite happily kick that pain to the curb...
Martha, the only way to argue a good point is by poignant questions and pushing conversation to the breaking point at times. Seeing things in your own way or perspective is not aiways wrong as long as others are not upset, hurt or damaged by your beliefs or actions, and I hope for your safety as well.
It is good to want others to see good value to an idea concerning them when you obviously can see the positive side to their situation much clearer. And in my personal opinion, you should feel encouraged to pull for others showing like of faith. On a good note, some with self-serving desires have saved many lives and feelings of others. There is nothing errant about that either. I was once told by a pushy person that they would keep pushing unless someone spat on them. So, if nobody is spitting out pea soup, keep trying. But protect your mind and heart by the covering of the Lord.