The circumstances in my life that have brought me here read like a Greek tragedy. I, like everyone else, just want to feel that someone understands. There's a hole in me - the one that's left when I give to everyone else and nothing is coming back in. I'm trying to be positive and appreciate what I have. I am trying to have faith that things will get better. Life just keeps shaking my faith.
Seemingly laughably, I am the one that everyone leans on. I give advice with a positive smile and a hug. Everyone around me would say that I make them feel good and help them solve their problems. How is it then that I am so lonely? Do they not see that I just want the favor returned. Not platitudes - real caring and understanding.
oh cece i,m so sorry hun. we're sure glad that your here with us where we can send ya cyber hugs.....i really do understand like just keeps shaking my faith. is there anything that you'd like to talk about that may make you feel better? if not now hun, thats ok, we'll be here for ya when ya want
Wow. I feel alot like you do. No one that knows me would guess I am so lonely.I always put on a smile, encourage, help, and cheer others but I am struggling to just get through each day. Feel like I don't have a true friend in the world. Hang in there. Things will get better.
You hang in there too. You said it just right. No one would guess. We smile encourage, help and cheer - all the while fighting back the tears. You’re right. Things MUST get better. I’m sorry for you that we feel the same - but I appreciate the support ~C
Thank you Kathy. I wouldn't even know where to begin with what I would like to talk about. It just seems like pointless complaining. I try to be positive, appreciate what I have and give to the people around me. Mostly, i think, I miss my family. They've all died. My aunt died last and when she did my last connection to unconditional love, support, and laughter went with her. I've been trying to find those qualities again in someone else. I've been sorely disappointed and worse yet, hurt. The past three years have just been brutal with one catastrophe after another. I've been trying to figure it all out and rebuild my life alone. I've tried to be strong. It's worn me down.
Thank you so much for listening.
wel ladies lets do something about that, we all now know each other...lets go from there.....what woudl you like to talk about first? we could even start a new link with out stories if you'd like.....lets do something positive to help get out of this loney funk, what ya say? we are here for you anytime. depression if a horrible thing to deal with. the toughest is your depressed and really need help but it s the last thing your want. like just everyone leave me alone and let me be miserable..oohh thats tough...ok so which of you goes first? lets get some coversation going about what ever....on your mark....get set....GO!
Kathy, I love your style! You’re absolutely right. We’ve found each other - lets go from there. We don’t all need to feel lonely alone. We can do it together - an maybe not feel lonely.
Cece, I know how your feel. All of that sadness just gets the best of us sometimes. And if you try and talk about it, it feels like whining and complaining which is so NOT who we are. That is why this sight can be helpful. There is no one judging you, just let it out. I've done it time and again. Sometimes you gets lots of responses, sometimes not, but that's OK. Just give it a try.
How right you are. Complaining is NOT who we are. Is this a more common problem than it seems? Are there so many people out there who feel like us. Suffering alone? And why?
alwaysworry is right on let go here...thats what we are here for, to listen and empathize and we know how you feel it actually helps us when ya do. so share away hun!!!
Ok, girls, so how do you handle a CRISIS when all you want is someone to hold you and tell you it will be ok and you are loved when they all just get nasty. My husband, who comes from the most dysfunctional functioning family i've ever seen, gets mean because he panics when he thinks I'm failing at being there for him. I work with his family. They are rotten, spoiled, selfish people. I am good enough to cry on my shoulder when they want me. Other than that I'm entirely disposable.
Now I have a real problem and I have noone to turn to. I'm scared. I'm falling apart and they are only making it worse. I can usually find comfort within myself. This time around it's just not working.
Thank you all for your help. I'm glad to have found you. You've made a huge difference in a strangers day.
Cece, sorry for all of your losses. Life really throws us some curves, does't it. I truely believe that everything happens for a reason and that the reason is far greater than we could ever imagine. Sometimes we get bits and pieces in the way of answers. Like perhaps finding your way here at some point will prove to be a positive in your life, like it has for me, I know its hard to not feel so alone at times. I do even with a hubby and two kids still at home. Because they just can't feel what I feel and that in itself makes me feel alone. But each time I talk about it here or with my therapist, it helps to open me up some. I actually stopped going to therapy for a while because I felt like I was constantly complaining and it wasn't going anywhere. She never said that, but it was the feeling I got. I've started with someone new and it seems different. Instead of feeling like I'm complaining, somehow I manage to identify other feelings with this person and that has been good. Can you consider therapy so that you have someone to talk to regularly about some of your specific issues with these family members? Can you ever just ask your hubby to hold you cause you are having a hard time holding yourself together? Guys don't like to hear it cause they always want to fix things. But just let him know that you don't expect him to fix it, just support you through it. Keep talking to us, OK, don't feel alone. Thea
cece thea just said it right there....that woman has somethine very special to offer i would listen to every word. god bless you both
Thea, your words are wonderful. Thank you for them. Kathy is right, you have something very special to offer. Thank you for sharing with me. ~C
Cece, let us know how you are doing. I am glad my few words may have helped a little. That is what I love about this site. No judging, just honest comments. No feeling alone. We are here for you.