What if someone made you feel "less than"? Or acted as your feelings didn't matter? Gave the option to "try living life without me". Sound like Love? Compassion? Understanding?
It never mattered in the past when I hurt or was hurt by someone if it would meet my wants and needs. Until I was hurt deep enough and couldn't cover the pain. Then I got clean and the feeling really started! Now I've done my share of hurting people in my life, using and clean, and know that is the last thing I want to do to anyone. I still have though but "when wrong promptly admitted it" and try to understand how and why I did. Then do my best not to do it again. But that's how I work my program, that's how I was taught. But why should anyone be made to feel less than, not good enough or like a option for the sake of "love"? If someone has "potential" let them reach it first or except them as they are, in progress. :)
JFT....
I've made mistakes in my life. I've let people take advantage of me, and I them. I've excepted less than i deserve. I've made bad choices and learned. Even though there are some things I can never get back and people who will never be sorry, Ill know better next time and wont settle fore less than I deserve. My feelings do matter.