Sad. I going thru a separation from my wife. But I'm not sure who's the narcissist, her or me.
I took tests online several times, all showed that I was no where near being a narcissist. As for my wife, she show so many traits but never took a test. Regardless, I can't tell if I'm being abused or doing the abuse. I love my wife, and will do whatever it takes to make her happy, but to me it seem like she finds things to break us apart. One, I'm not big on social media until now. Last night I told her that my new media page is only for my music, and I won't reply to commits, and if I see too many post on my page, I will block her or anyone else. She took it as I was giving her an ultimatum and trying to control her,Wtf. It's a longer story, because I'm in Michigan while she's in Vegas. Which makes it harder. Plus I have Asperger, so that doesn't help none. If I didn't make the call or text whenever we go thru a thang, this relationship would've been over before we got married two years ago. Am I chasing someone who does really care? I don't know, but the more time goes by that she don't call, seems like the more I realize she just don't give a dam.
Upstairz, I'd trust that test as far as yourself...you're probably fine. It seems like there may be an issue here apart from the question of narcissism, that being that she doesn't seem very interested in the marriage. Living so far apart is a problem. I think you need to have a heart-to-heart talk with her and see if she's really willing to make the marriage work. You can't do it all on your own!
@tabbylady thank you, I will have that sit down when I get back to Vegas. But I’m gonna stand strong and not lean into the old cliche of she’s always the wife’s right the husband’s wrong in everything said.
She constantly repeats and thinks, a happy wife is a happy life, but what about Bob?
Plus with her, it’s mainly a money issues, every since her income greatly increase over mine, it seemed like every month three days prior to payday she get a holier then thou attitude. And gets vindictive and breaks things around the house if she feels like I’m ignoring, disrespecting, or cheating(which I never done). I’m lost sometimes, but not stupid. I know I gotta walk away, just really hard to do when you care.
Relationships are hard especially when both parties have conditions. I can't really give you advice other than keep the lines of communication open.
@charm27 thank you, but I cried enough and tried more than she pushed away to keep this marriage alive. I will walk away from love this time with no regrets. But thank again.