Hi everyone. I am a 17 year old female and I think I am a lesbian. I am currently in a realtionship with a girl, but I haven't told anyone. What do I do?
Be yourself & when you feel comfortable in telling whomever than you will. Its ashame that people feel so scared or stressed out because of what others might think or say or do cause we as a society have TAUGHT maybe NOT SO NICE morales, values & judgement upon others in life, your in a rough spot, follow your gut instincts & the rest will follow, teach others to not be so closed minded in their thinking, just a thought.
Take care of you
April
Thank you April
I haven't told anyone because I don't want people to hate mean or do mean things to me. I guess it is better that I keep it to myself and not say anything
Thats your choice & decision & one day it will be alright no matter what just dont let it eat you alive, please take care of you & talking it out it can & does help sometimes, oh and I too love art.
April
Art helps me relax and I use it as a coping skill instead of cutting
Me too, although I havent had enough time to really be creative like I'd wished to be, just working on upgrading my house not as much fun but productive :-)
I am stressing so bad right now. I feel like I am going insane!! :(
I feel like cutting so bad. I decided to come here to get my mind off it
Good for you, thats how its done & does help to know you are not alone, none of us really are, its a lil detached for me computer stuff, but another form of communication huh..... do you know anything about Trompe L'oeil, I would really like to have the time to accomplish/develope skills for a mural one day. My 18 yr. old does stuff w/the computer wizard thats amazing to me & timing is everything (I'm not a computer person but I try), talk to me....
Thanks April for being so supportive and understanding.
I am just very overwhelmed with a lot of things right now. I cant wait until my counseling appointment on Wednesday. I just have so much to talk about.
Well there you go & I admire you for seeking out counseling to help guide/assist you to learning more about yourself & feeling better within its always good to talk it out w/someone..... & we need more of that in the world huh
I sort of have an eating disorder too and I haven't told my couselor about it. I am scared to
You have to be true to yourself, my friend. Life is way too short to live a life unfulfilled.
I know I have an eating disorder, but I just can't tell her because I don't know what she will do or how she will react. So I guess I let how I THINK people will react get in the way
You ever hear the saying, don't care what others think only care about what you yourself think. I always went by the philosophy what other's think of me really doesn't do squat for me in life except my boss cuz he/she is the one handing me my paycheck so, they can either make my life better or not pending on how much money they want to pay me. WHen it comes to being true to yourself you'll realize this as you get older. I'm sure you hear that crap alot but its true, you need to be yourself and confident in your true self. Take a deep breath and try to be still for a few minutes imagine what actually truly makes you happy in life. If you could have anything what would you be doing or having at this moment. Hiding things from people if you want to live that way, then you might have those stressed feelings etc. If you want to be open then you might have to deal with other's sharing their feelings of dismay etc. But they might not react in the way you might think they would, but you won't know til you're honest and open. Again its up to you in whatever decision you make. Just make sure that you're okay with that decision and be at peace with it. If you choose to stay secret its okay if you choose to be open that's fine too, whatever you do should be the right decision for you so realax don't stress just know your 17y and this freaking out is part of your being at your age if you know what i mean:) Have fun and enjoy life mindfully:)
Hey guys! I know I havent been on in a long time. Just wanted to see how everyone is doing
I have some experience in this area. I still have not came out and told my family that I'm gay. My advice to you is don't make the mistake I made by introducing my girlfriend as my roommate to everyone. When I dated my first girlfriend I was way too young and most importantly not comfortable with who I was to be with the girl I was with. She was patient in the beginning, but towards the end of being with her for 3.5 years she kicked me to the curb. My advice for you is be comfortable with who you are and treat your girlfriend with the upmost respect. I learned that to late in the relationship and I lost the best thing that was in my life. Took me a year to get over my first girlfriend and I got in another relationship and I learned from my mistakes in the first, but I also know how my first girlfriend felt because my second girlfriend would not tell anyone that she was with me and I was only a friend according to her.
Its not about what others think of you its what you think of yourself. Try not to let others get inside your head and you will be fine.
Take care
Thank you for the great advice. I will have to remember that for my next relationship. Yes we broke up. I am not over her, but she is still my best friend. We may try getting back together again. I hope it will work out this time because I love her so much. I want to be with her for the rest of my life. She means everything to me.
I'm sorry to hear that the first one is always hard to let go of. All you can do is be there for her in every way that you can. Starting off friends first is always a good way to go. I wish you the best of luck and if she is who you want to spend the rest of your life with then you cannot give up.
I cant live without her. She means so much to me. She actually understands who I am and what I am going through. I need her.
AthleticArtist,
I'm 16 and know exactly what you're going through. I haven't told my family that I'm bisexual and I know my father will react badly if he finds out. It's ok, though. This is our life to live and I hope you do what makes you happy. Not everyone is going to judge you badly, I promise. There are gonna be bumps along the way but you just have to hang on tight and pull through. It's gonna get better with time, too. If you ever need to talk, I'm going to get on more consistantly now and you can message me if you feel the need.
~TheGurlNextDoor