Seems like every since I found out I had herpes and I told m

Seems like every since I found out I had herpes and I told my bf we've got closer. Now that he knows he's the one who gave me it and wasn't showing symptoms he's the one depressed and I am not so depressed. I try to keep him lifted up but he feels so bad. Having sex protected he is aggravated with but I try to explain to him that we have no choice so we're not faced with outbreaks and extra health issues

That's great that you and your bf are closer now. I hope that he'll find it easier to deal with with time, usually it's worse at first. If you've both got it using protection isn't absolutely necessary (although caution not to pass it on unaffected areas like eyes and mouth is still important).

How do you know your partner gave it you? I ask because I believe mine did as well. I get regularly tested twice a year and he has been the only NEW person that I have been sexually active with since my last test. Also, he has never been tested for STDs before. When I told him that he should get tested he told me he was not going to for his own personal reasons.