I am so mad right now. One week ago, I fell a bit and didn't eat for a couple of days. I pulled myself right back up followed my meal plan, started running, which helps deal with stress, and I felt really good about myself!
Today I went to the nurse for my "check up". She makes me so mad/upset/i don't even know. She told me I gained yet again. COOL! Stop telling me. And she asked me how it made me feel, and I said whatever. Like I am not a number I get that, but I mean who wants to hear they gained. And she said it like- well you gained again, you were fine last time, but you gained some more so I think that is fine. Gah I want to scream at her.
Then she asked me about exercise. Last time she was like oh you can exercise for three days a week for thirty minutes. She said that the time before. THis time- though I gained weight- she said I can only work out two times a week for twenty minutes!!!!! What the F***. I am so pissed. I am not listening to her at all. I am doing what she told me last time and I know my body feels fine and I am strong! Heck, I ran the 5k this weekend no problem.
I want to cancel seeing her. She isn't helping. I am not going to go back into my ED. I am in control. I am just plain old mad about all this. I am seriously considering cancelling my next appointment with her. I mean I am paying her to piss me off, tell me I have gained weight, and basically to judge me? Not cool. I am done with her.
So now I am in a bad mood and I have a test today! I hate this week so much.
I think you should give her another chance with the condition that she meets your expectations. Tell her she cannot say whether or not you gained and tell her what you would like to do for exercise. You have to be as open as possible and be assertive! Yes she is the expert in this field but you are the expert of your body so you have to tell her how you are feeling.
If that doesn't work you should find a new nutritionist and be totally up front about your expectations. You deserve to get the best care possible!
oh allee i would have to say --if SHE is messing up your recovery then stop seeing her and see someone else...
please do that. it is not right for her to be so insensitive and weird about this. if she hurts you--see someone else. you do not need her to mess up your recovery. she is not worth it...
you have said this before. allee did you tell her not to tell you you gained????? if you did tell her this, then she is so wrong. i dont know why she is doing this. allee does she know you have ED??? she needs to know. if she does know, then what she is doing is beyond wrong...
is there someone else you can see??? is she a school nurse? or from a doctor???
im so sorry. please dont let her own stupidity get YOU down... i dont think she knows how to handle people with ED at all. or anyone so it seems..she is wrong...
get someone else--better! she is not worth your health happiness...
I agree with maureen if you feel that she is getting in the way of you're recovery than stop seeing her but pleaaassseee make sure you replace her and don't just stop going to anyone. You are making such progress!! I know I'd feel a little confused too and aggrivated if i was in that situation. I think you should give her one more chance, and if she does the same thing question her. Ask why she is lowing your exercise and what you are supposed to be aiming for when you go to see her. Is it blind weight? If not then she should not be commenting because it's not like you can't read the scale. About not being a number, tell her that!!!! Tell her it aggrivates you and inhibits you because she makes you feel like numbers are constraining you. She can hep without mentioning numbers. Cheer up!!!
thanks sonrisas...i agree this can be quite traumatic for a person with ED --what i feel is that this woman has no freakin clue at ALL how to talk to people with EDs...does she know you have ED??? cause if she does, well, that is so wrong--wrong even if you didnt have an ED. i mean, she is quite rude about this!!! my therapist/fiancee told me this: people are gonna say weird things to you, there are gonna be mean comments to you--it is how you react/deal with their comments that is the key... there will always always be mean people in the world. what we have to do is let their ignorance flow off of us like water off a duck's back( my mom used to say that). by letting go of their stupidity we are stronger better than them...
i mean i can relate--i got a weight loss book for my birthday from my moms freind! imagine the pain and shock i went through when i saw that!!!!but i threw it out...
absolutely (like everyone else) if she is in your way make sure you speak your truth and tell them you do not want to see that nurse as she is impeding your recovery. its ok and nothing personal but this is your path and all about you if there is anytime to be a self advocate it is now
have u told her that u dont want her to say if u gained or lost weight. when i first got deep into my ed, i told my nutritionist not to tell me if i gained or lost. now i just turn away from the scale and she gives me a thumb up or down. but a certain person should not make u lose insight in your goals.
keep staying strong....i read every post of yours and to be honest you are an inspiration to me.
allee…you have every right to request a different nurse! You are the person paying for services, and it sounds like she is not helping AT ALL!
Speak up for yourself…it’s worth a try!
Take care…Jan
then i think this person is irresponsible, strange, insensitive, and just---plain cold. i really think you should get another nurse, allee..really this is quite sickening....how she KNOWS you have ED but is saying this to you. quite appalling actually..
im so sorry... but like i said in my previous replies---dont let her stupidity/ insensitivity get to you...
Again, I am agreeing with Maureen:). This nurse obviously hasn't had much training or experience with ED patients and does not know what is appropriate. Get a new nurse there if possible, or go somewhere you feel more comfortable. No insensitive nurse should prevent you from getting better. Keep us updated.
Im sorry your nurse is like Allee. Some peole can be so ignorant about EDs. Have you told her you don't want to know if you gained? Next time you see her you should tell her that she is not being helpful and you don't appreciate her telling you if you gained. Can you ask for a different nurse? I hope it gets better for you Allee. Stay strong. Nicole
