Should I text her or not? I called her back (twice) as I told her I would, and she didn't pick up. She called for a reason, I know she did. With her anxiety, it took courage to call. Why didn't she pick up when I called back? Could be a plethora of reasons. But should I step up and text to see if everything is okay? Or step back and let her come around on her own terms? Sigh. Questions that need answers. Trying to love someone with a mental illness while theyre pushing and pulling you all other the place. What should I do? I'm still kind of upset that she was so aggressive and mean to me last convo. Idk if she's calling to be nice, calling to lash out on me, I just don't know anythi. I'm just trying to be healthy for me.
Maybe one text, politely saying it's up to her to reply, ie, you'll give her space and not push?
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@Travelled Thank you for the advice, I texted her pretty much saying that. Half hour later she says she's sorry she didn't pick up the phone, she was out. She said she never meant to call me, it was an accident (even though she was on the phone when I answered and I swore I heard her agree to me calling her back) and then she says she's happy I had a great time yesterday, acting all over joyed. I don't know how to respond. I'm confused, part of me thinks she called for a reason but now after all this time went past she doesn't want to address it any more (she has done this before) and given our last convo where she was agressive and hung up on me without saying good bye, her acting all happy for me, calling me by my Nick name makes me so confused so I didn't respond because I don't know how to. It's that push and pull thing I keep getting wrapped up in. It would make me more comfortable to say nothing. But I don't want to appear rude. Her story just doesn't add up. If you call by accident and I pick up saying I will call you back, wouldn't it make sense to text me and say hey, it was a mistake no need to call me back. Or even after I called twice I would think she'd at least text and say hey, if you're calling back in reference to earlier, me calling you was an accident (oddly she has never made this "mistake" before within the two years we were together) so yea, I don't believe that excuse but I'm not going to go searching for answers..