My sister recently lost her husband of 14 years. He was only 38 and died tragically on Easter Sunday, 2011. She has 4 kids ages 4-12. She has a several friends and his family but people are fading. She seems to be talking most to me about everything and wants me around as much as possible. I live 600 miles away. I do my best to visit her often but can only do so much. Right now she is in "overdrive", going non stop as not to be at home to think too much. I have seen improvements, ie: sleeping better, eating more, being able to be home without another adult every night...I desperately want to help her and the kids. There is no book on this and need help, suggestions. Another concern is that, I don't think the kids have talked to a professional and aren't talking to anyone else, other than maybe their friends. Should they be seeing someone? Widow is so much more than just losing a loved one. Every single aspect of their lives has changed, and not for the good. How do they get through this?
My husband died on 4/16/11 and I have a 12 yr old son. His counselor of several yrs said to just let him alone for now as teen yrs are hard for any kid w hormones, growing up and now with dads death..just need to keep a close eye on him. He says he's angry but may never talk about it. Just reassured him I am here whenever he needs me. Has your sister ever reached out to a church? Several kinds have many programs for the kids and she may find tremendous emotional support. Life sucks right now but you can only focus on today and let tomorrow take care of itself. God Bless you for caring so much.
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