Happy new year everyone.. I personally hope that all of you can make the best of it.
I would just like to let out my frustration.... both of my grandparents bought me clothes that were much larger than the size I am. That completely made me feel like a piece of crap. Do I really look like I am that size when in reality I am not?
It just gets to me that other people think I am larger than I am. It hurts. But I do understand that grandparents are just grandparents.
Happy new year everyone. You all are very genuine and special, I appreciate everything you do.
Discover, please edit ur post to remove thw clothing sizes,this may be a trigger to other members...
Grandparents are grandparents! Don't hold it against them, I'm sure they meant no harm...I know mine would always get things huge for me and say they'd rather it be too big then too small. Don't let this get ya down sweetie.
I too think that people may be trying to help you NOT feel bad, in terms of buying things that they know won't be tight or cause you to feel bigger than you are, but it backfires sometimes.
I understand completely why sizes and numbers bother you. It will take time, as you learn to think of yourself in other ways, besides your size.
Take care....and please continue to share...Jan ♥
Ahhhh- My grandparents, when they were alive, never bought me the right size either. People, all people, naturally have different perspectives. I have experienced people thinking all kinds of false things about me... It was painful to me when I was given clothing that was too big, because I worried that the gift giver really thought I was bigger than I was. I was hurt when I was given smaller clothing than I was because I worried that I *should* be a smaller size. I even was appalled when a man in one of my exercise classes guessed my *actual* weight, because then I feared that my anorexia was truly visible to others... There's no winning, eh?? :) And we aren't even that much better at seeing ourselves... I can't tell you how many times I've gone into a dressing room with an item of clothing only to find that I needed a different size... Sometimes I needed a smaller size, which my eating disorder LOVED, and sometimes I needed a larger size, which my eating disorder berated me for... I never have a *clue* how to pick out sizes for *others*... :) But the point is... Is my size, or yours, a reflection on *who* we are? Can that show our worth as human beings? Of course not... ♥ I know very well how the eating disorder can twist things and make us think so, but rationally, we must recognize that that isn't true... It takes time... Recovery is a process. ♥
