My mum died about 7 years ago and ever since them i have suffered with various eating disorders. first compulsive eating, then anorexia and more recently bulimia.
I am off to Germany to represent Australia in less than a month and i really want to be rid of this disorder before i go. I am also in year 12 and bulimia seems to be consuming all my time, time that i should be studying.
Please help! My future hangs in the balance :(
I'm so so sorry about your mom. i really felt compelled to comment because I lost my mom too,she passed away when I was little. I know it's probably different because i was really young,but I wanted you to know your definitely not alone. II think there might even be a group on here that is for coping with grief? I just wanted to give you virtual *hug* and say that I'm here if you need anyone to talk to,because I can relate. I know it's so hard to go on without them,but it's so important to know that they're always with us,and in a better place now. have you tried counceling? I know it definitely helped me work through my grief,anger and pain about my own mom passing away. hang in there,because it will get better. I remember it was so sharp at first,but after time you slowly heal,and now I'm to the point where when I think of my mom,I remember all the good things,and I can smile. You'll get there too,and even though you won't ever stop missing her,you can know she's watching over you,and always with you,and remember all those good times. I really think it's important to work through the pain though,because it's the root of the eating disorder,you know? God Bless. your in my prayers,and I'm here if you ever need to talk. and have fun in germany! my cousin recently went there,she said it was amazing. :)
Thankyou so much...your support means a lot!
I have previously been through lots of counselling but it didn't work. I am a very concealed person and talking to strangers always seems to make my problems worse.
It is very comforting to know that others have been through similar experiences. By the sounds of it you are a very strong person to have been able to get through your mums death the way you did.
My main problems now arn't coming to terms with mums death, im fine with that. It is that I have an older friend that i am very close to and is exactly like a mum to me. I am treated like an adopted daughter in her family. At first this gave me feelings of joy but now it just seems to be complicating things.
I have gone numb and am unable to feel anything anymore...i think it from confusion of this relationship.
Only 25 days until i leave :D
I'm so sorry.:( it kind of sounds like your saying that you might feel guilty about having this new mother figure in your life? like you shouldn't be happy about it,because your somehow "replacing" your real mom? idk if I'm anywhere near right,but I just gotta say,even though it's so hard,you have to know you shouldn't feel that way! I mean,think about it. your mom loved you so much. wouldn't this be just what she would hope for for you? someone to kind of fill her shoes while she's gone? Idk if your a religious person,so I don't want to offend you in anyway,because I am,so just excuse the rest of this sentence if it bothers you in anyway,okay?;)but I definitely believe your mom is watching over you,and is probably thrilled that you found someone to love you like she did. and also-you know that nobody can ever take your mom's place in your heart.:) it's okay to love someone else too.:)
idk if that helped at all,but I remember going through a similar thing with my gramma. she took me in and raised me like her own,and I love her just like a second mom,but I know that nobody could ever take my mom's place,it's just having someone else you can love too,you know? It's okay to love her like a mom,too.I know i was afraid that I could only love one of them but I promise,it's not true.:)
okay,well,if your not feeling like that at all(Lol) and you just had to endure reading all that,i'm sorry.:) I would love to talk to you about how you feel if you want to explain,I would love to listen. I know how hard this is,but I also think it's important to remember,I got through it,and you can too.:) :)