So finally me and my husband spoke face to face. I took it up because I just couldn't shut up anymore.
Apparently he has issues with me since beginning, since we met. Why he chose to marry me is still unclear.
During the whole conversation he did not say even once he loved me. He did hug me and kiss me after that but not even once he said he loves me.
I am starting to think that he does not love me anymore even though he has previously said that he does..
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So how do you feel about this, do you want to fight for the relationship or does this push you to move on?
@CKarma To be totally honest, I am still very confused. I have days when I want to fight and I have days when I think why should I waste any more of my life on this man.
Yesterday I checked hes mobile and he had messaged to he's sister and said that he was pressured into this marriage (in he's culture fixed marriages are very common and children are often pressured by parents to get married). When I read that I felt like someone stabbed me again and again. When I confront him he keeps saying that he was not in a right state of mind. I mean it must be some truth about it right?
He even said that I never watch any sports with him and he knew from day one that I do not watch nor do I do sports. So I don't understand why he is saying things which he knew about from day one? I feel like he just makes excuses for himself.
There is a bit of hesitation in me that says that he is not keeping this marriage for the right reasons. He is insisting that he wants to fix it but I am not convinced 100%..
Pixie... i wanna say to you to have more hope. My husband from day 1 did not even say he will try to fix it. All he said was i don't know and now i don't even hear i dont know. So keep that as a thing to hold onto. My husband used to say it is gonna be okay. Now he said he will not say thinhs like that. So dont wait for him to say its over. Give him the chance... believe me. You are in a far better place now..dont make the same mistake i did. I think i am at the point of no return.
@KatrinaMarielle I feel for you, I really do but its very hard for me to be hopeful after all the things I have read and heard…
Also believe when they say they are only upset when they say things. Isnt it true? We do the same... so also give him the benefit. I wish i was rhe person i am now in tje beginning. I knew it would have made a difference. But i am not saying je is right.
I am just saying....
@KatrinaMarielle I guess only time will tell what will happen, I do not give any promises to him. Only time will tell…
I was like that too... but dont push it yourself. Let time do its thing. For me i feel like i pushed thinhs to go tje direction i did not want it to go. Take it from my mistake... i am just telling you feom experience. When we are hurt we tend not to have ao much understanding. I was like that. I dont like those days looking back.
I think I would have a talk with him about your feelings and how much it hurts to feel that he didn't think to say he loves you when you need to feel it. But be careful to not get angry. Anger is a legitimate feeling but acting on it will not help. I would be very matter of fact and tell him that if he regrets marrying you, maybe it is time to seperate. Because you deserve to have the love of your life. I said those very words to my husband and it had an impact. I also told him that my love for him is pure. And another man would appreciate me. Let us know how this goes. Do NOT allow this to get into an argument!! Be very matter of fact. Look in the mirror and practice having your face not frown for this discussion. It helps to show him your resolve. And don't make this be about any dirt shoveling if you can help it. Sending you strength and prayers. Xx
I did tell him but over text messages. It is hard for me look at he's face because all I see is him with this girl. If I try to talk face to face I often start crying and I just don't want to cry anymore.
The only thing I have left at the moment is to wait and see how I go..
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Yes sadly it is said that a man that cheats on his wife loves to see her cry. I heard that early on and resolved not to cry in front of him if I could help it. But sometimes you cannot help it.