So... I dont know where to turn to. I just found out my boyf

So... I dont know where to turn to. I just found out my boyfriend of 4 years has a porn addiction. Well in my opinion thats what hes saying but Its hard for me to see it as such when I am so angry about it. I found out his methods and how he had been lying to me about it a couple of times. It just sucks because I feel like my suspicions about it where true but I didnt think it be this bad. Found out he was using a certain apps. and was communicating with other females. Its been about 10 weeks / little over 2 months and although he has been going to S.A. meetings and seems like hes been being more open and honest with me and talking to me more the thoughts, paranoia, flash backs, anger, and almost any other emotion you can think of is still there. I've been trying to be supportive and trying to work through this with him but I cant help the way it has been making me feel. I just dont know what to do anymore and feel as I have no one to talk to about this stuff.... I feel like I am trying to be there for everyone else and help everyone through their tough time/s yet I feel as if I have no one. I just want all this to go away.

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You're always welcome to talk, vent, and ask questions here at SG+. And there are other places where you can talk as well, Twelve Step groups for the partners/family members of sex addicts. Let me give you the names and websites for these groups. S-Anon/S-ATeen Internation Family Groups. This is the sister group to Sexaholics Anonymous. Their website can be found by going to: The second support group is called Codependents of Sex Addicts. This is the sister group to Sex Addicts Anonymous. Their website can be found by going to: And the third group is called Codependents of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. This is the sister group to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. Their website can be found by going to: Each of these fellowships offers "in person" group meetings, telephone groups, and online meetings. Information on all of these groups can be found on each fellowship's website.

Sorry you are dealing with this, you are not alone. My husband of 22 years is also addicted to porn and it has cost us so much, both financially and emotionally. I never thought porn was the problem it was, I just thought it was something most men used occasionally. I did not like it, but just rolled with it. Almost 4 years ago our home was searched by police, and he had to go to court. It was horrible. I thought he was working through it, he wasn't, the day after our anniversary he told me he was still viewing porn, and he had gone to a prostitute. He was forced to as I was having physical/medical problems (std?) it wasn't, but it sure could have been.
I read a book suggested by a therapist called Porn Nation, that explained a lot, recently I found a website called that also explains so much. He is on very thin ice, SAA, more therapy, etc...
I feel so hurt by his selfish porn use and cheating, if he slips up any more I just can't stay with him. I totally understand your hurt. Feel free to come here with questions, or just to vent. There are a lot of wonderful people here who are going through what you are going through, they will get the anger, and hurt.
Take care of you!

I hear you. I feel like I'm trying to be supportive of my husband so he can get better, but I feel like I have no one to turn to to talk about what I am going through. I go to therapy, but I feel like it's not going to help me because I just want someone to "fix it" and make me feel better...and I know that's never going to happen. The pain I feel emotionally is unlike anything I have felt before.

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Honestly I just want to forget I ever found out and that all of this is happening. I do talk to him about every thought and feeling I have but sometimes I feel as if I talk to him to much and he cant always give me the answer I want. That and maybe whatever answers I get arent good enough because I tend to be consumed by blaming myself for it although he tells me not to and it has nothing to do with me. Do any of you use AIM? or can I inbox some of you? There are some things and details I rather not go into publicly.

@EmoArtist feel free to message me. I supported you so if you support me we can message. I am having trouble connecting with my ipad, so it might be a while before you hear back.