So I think I'm still suffering with HOCD but now I've developed TOCD! I HOPE! I've felt comfortable being a girl, wearing dresses, painting my nails, playing with dolls! But now I'm thinking maybe it was all a cover up? And it's like OCD (hoping it is ocd) is almost convincing me I'm excited to be a boy! It is awful! I don't want to be excited! I love being a girl and I feel like it's making me feel I'm don't! It's making me think I don't like girly clothes - my wardrobe is full of dresses that's all I wear! But it doesn't feel the same as HOCD? I hardly have any, anxiety or fear I juts obsess. Can someone help me? Can you just turn transgender at the age of 16? Please help!!
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Hey girl..I'm 16 too except I'm a boy...I have all the symptoms you mentioned above...MY Tocd also developed after hocd....The biggest thing that freaked me out was no anxiety and fear...ITS ALL JUST OCD
You cannot turn trans...
BTW one tip:Don't google trans people..It will make the matter worse
I am 15 year old girl and i had hocd then developed tocd and i also did not have as much anxiety or fear over it. I obsessed over it too and started doubting weather or not i actually like being a girl or if it was a cover up. It is all ocd trust me :) hang in there it will get better :)
Thank you for for replies! But I just don't know anymore? I feel like HOCD has gone and left me gay and maybe that's what's happening with TOCD! Maybe I never had OCD! Maybe I was lying? I don't know any more! I'm sure I liked being a girl, but I was never completely boy crazy but I know I liked guys! I'm confused and I want to be normal like I was! Sometimes I think that maybe I just don't want to be gay and a boy because of what people will think!
@Confused. The exact same happened to me sonyou are not alone. I had hocd for ages, watched bruce jenner coming out then BAM i thought that I was trans cause I was comparing! Comparing is the last thing you want to do but cause lf the ocd it makes you do it. I was never boy crazy either but I did have a few crushes on boys. Hang in there, its ocd playing with your mind again
Thanks it just feel so real! Sometimes it makes me think I really want to be a boy or want to be gay - thinking maybe I'll be happier or enjoy more! Did you ever feel like ocd was just an excuse and you don't have the same thing all these other people have and you're lying? That's what I'm feeling like now! I feel like maybe I've just made up ocd! But I pretty sure I had HOCD! But TOCD - I'm so unsure because of no anxiety! I was happy being a girl I don't want to be trans! So, so far I HOPE that it's ocd because first I feared I was gay and when that settled down, I feared I was attracted to my twin sister, which is stupid and now I'm scared I'm trans but I'm not as scared as usual! This sucks! I'm constantly questioning myself! If I'm happy then I question why, if I'm sad, I question why I'm sad - maybe because I want to be a boy!! Any advice!! @bellarose11
@Confused. First off, when you said that the feelings feel very real, that is what ocd is. Its when you feel real for somwthing that is a lie. I also did not have anjxiety over the trans thought, i guess I was just more shocked over the idea than scared. I also felt like it might make a lot more sense being a boy! However, i told my physcologist and she asked me this. ‘Instead of searching for clues that you may be gay or trans, search for clues why you may be straight and a girl.’ This then helped me a lot! So advise you to do the same.
And yes, when I was going through my very bad days of these thoughts I believed that this whole ocd thing was a lie and a coverup for me. I felt like my whole childhood was lie in which in fact it wasnt. I would have simply known this when i first started to even know how to communicate. Also remember to accept the thoughts and remember that accepting the thoughts do not mean that you are agreeing with them. Accepting them will reduce and ankxiety that you may ne feeling for either gay or trans thoughts. I hope this helped 
Wow thank you that really helped! I will definitely try that! I'm glad someone is the same as me! I always feel as if I need to find that I definitely do have ocd and I'm not just lying - I still don't know? I don't even know if I have intrusive thoughts anymore! Right now TOCD is still here but today it's like I like the thoughts of being gay and that HOCD is convincing me that I've changed! I feel like after all this time I've completely lost my attraction and desire for guys! Sometimes I even feel like I'm disgusted by them and I don't want this to happen! I want to go back to my normal self where I knew I was a girl and just wanted to impress guys! Will this ever happen? Because I'm sure HOCD has turned me gay and I DONT want TOCD to turn me trans!!!
@Confused. I am glad that helped! What makes the ehole thing worse is by reassuring yourself. By constantly asking yourself wherther or not its a lie or is ocd is definieltlet ocd, how do I know? Well simply cause if you did not have ocd, you wouldnt be questioning if it is ocd or not. But you are. Yiy are doubting and fightinf against your heart and your mind. Your mind plays tricks on you! You cannot turn gay or suddenly want to be the opposite gender over night. Yiu can relaize it, but you cannot just become it. By realizing it, i mean that for people who are trans, they know that they feel different and do different things from when they are little. When hocd had me at my worst, i was constantly contemplating wether or not i am attracted by boys. On my bad days i find myself not wanting anything to do with a boy! And because of all this i dont know what i really want in the future! Buf then again that is my mind! What i truly want is a cute family and a loving and caring husband. Ask yourself, what was your life like before all of these ocd shit started to happen? What was your love life like? Growing up in primary school? Interestes and hobbies?
I've always knew I was straight and a girl but now I'm questioning "have I" ( that's ocd isn't it?)! Now I'm nervous that I am realising that I'm gay or a boy which is freaking me out! Before HOCD and TOCD, I dreamed about have a husband and lots of kids? Dressing in fancy dresses and going out places in the future! My primary school was full of friends and I had my first crush there! I'm currently in upper school taking my exam (which is tough to revsie when you have ocd because I constantly feel drained and plus I don't like revising anyway haha) and I've had 2 or three crushed here! Although I've never had a boyfriend I'm sure I was staright! I've always loved dancing (which I still do) and I've loved being a girl? I wish I could just go back to tr way I was before when I never had any worries!!! But thank you for being so kind and helping me!
@Confused. Awh no problem. I am always herw to help. I know exactly what you are going through though. Anways, so before all of this started, you dreamed of having a husband and kids one day? And you also have had a few crushes herw and there? You love to dress up in dresses? Dont you think if you TRULY wanted to be a boy, you would hate the idea of dressing up and doing all those girly things? And if you were TRULY gay, dont you think your first crush would be more of a girl than a boy or only on girls?
But I do understand where you are coming from. I always say those two powerful words; ‘what if?..’ If you are questioning wether or not you truly liked them than that is probably the ocd again because if you think about it, before all of this, when you crushed on boys in primary, did you evee overthink wether or not you likes him in a way that you were queationing your sexuality? I will guess that you didnt question the feelings that you may have had for them because feelings become natural and well, growing up you just dont question it, you simply liked them and you just knew that you liked them. For me before all of this started, i grew up in primary school having a few crushes on boys and even got my first kiss from this one boy that i was obsessed about! I was so depressed after figuring out that he didnt like me anymore. I go to an all girl school now and well i lost all my contacts with boys for 3 years. I had forgotten what it felt like to like someone. This is what triggered it mostly cause there were boys that liked me but i just wasnt interested in them. At first thats when hocd got really bad and thought that the reason why i havent liked any biy for ages is cause i am gay! But no, i am straight who just havent found the right guy to fall for. I hope giving you a bit of a background from me can help you to understand the situation you are in and let you know that you are not alone
Yeah! I know it felt natural but then again im questioning whether it did or I was lying or have I hated wearing dresses! Now sometimes I'm scared to wear my dresses incase I feel like I should be a boy! I wish this would go away! I don't know if it's HOCD or TOCD! I feel like I don't have the same thing as everyone else on here I just don't know anymore! I wish I never had to think of this and now I'm thinking I want to be a boy or be gay! I'm scared this is true!!! It's awful! But thank you for helping, you really seem to know how to control your ocd, meanwhile I don't even know if I have ocd! But I suppose I'll have to treat if like that, give the thoughts no attention and just hope they go! I really hope I'm a girl and staright!!! I just don't want to let go of what I felt like before!
@Confused. @Confused. I understand how you are feeling. Not too long ago i seriously felt like I waa a boy and some days i seriously felt as if i was gay! In order to make myself feel better i would buy and do girly things but when I would do it, i felt as if i was forcing myself to do this in fear that i was just trying to cover it up! How i try and get through those days is remembering how i was before all of this started. So just keep reminding yourself of who you were before. I know what you mean, it is truly hard cause i too get those feelings that the attractions that i had for my crushes may have not been real or not! Also, do not compare yourself to other peoples stories and freaking out whether or not its ocd is part of the ocd! Yes you are right, give the thoughts no attention!
I noticed that at the end you said that you really hope you are a straight girl. If you were trans you would not want to be a girl and if you were gay you would not want to have sexual attractions to the opposite sex. i hope this helped
Thank you for taking time out of your day to help me, I'm really greatful! I'll just keep reminding myself that's who I was, so that's who I am, because I can't change right? I woke up with HOCD thoughts in my head, and the same with TOCD so I can't just turn gay or trans, hopefully!! Obviously as I'm saying I want to be a girl and a straight one, ocd is making me think I don't and I'm lying! It's just so confusing! I want to be back to the way I was! However, having HOCD and TOCD has actually made me sympathise a lot more with the LGBT community which is the only good thing coming from ocd! I want to get over it, but I haven't told my parents so I don't think I can go to a psychiatrist! Do you have any tips from yours psychiatrist? You really helped me! Thank you! I hope this is ocd!!