So im 32 weeks pregnant with my first child... My ex is out of the picture and has made it clear that he hopes my baby dies because he wants nothing to do with her. I just feel so sad inside because here i have this sweet beautiful life growing inside of me and he talks of her like shes nobody and to top it off im scared out of my mind on how im going to do this alone. Time is flying by and with each day i question if ill be able to do this alone.... if im strong enough.
you are strong!!!! you can do this!!! I think your X is a boy not a man....Be glad you an your child are rid of him now... you don't want your child to grow up with a father like that.. its not good for you or her... real men take care of there kids... can your family help?
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@fallcreeckdad Thanks it means a lot to hear kind words for once. I can agree that he is a boy trapped inside of a 25 year olds body… Its crazy how you can know somebody your whole life and one day find out you never really knew them at all… I dont really have much family just my mom who’s been supportive but at times it’s hard to open up to family about whats really going on and how you feel, the whole situation is just embarrassing.
don't talk to your ex any more. call Office Of Child support and let them deal w/ that piece of crap. find agencies in your area who will help you. lots of help out there for moms to be, don't be afraid to ask.
anyone who puts you down should be out of your life. don't put up w/ that kind of verbal abuse.
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@andine thanks, I’ve recently offically cut off all ways for him to contact me. As far as child support goes im just afriad that if i go and do that he will try to be a dick and get back at me by telling the court he wants to be able to see her. Even tho he says the things he says, i know he might just try to do that just to make me uncomfortable. He’s very unpredictable, evil and violent (not the same guy i once thought he was). I have to brush up on my NYS family law to make sure there is a way i can avoid that happening if i do seek child support.
be strong for both you and you baby. if your EX don't want anything to do with you that fine you have other family and friends who would be over joyed to help and support you. if he makes serious threats get a restraining order against him.
@kimfree Thank you so much. I’m happy my relationship with him has ended. Its like a weight has been lifted. I just feel so sad for my daughter because thats suppose to be her dad, but yet just because i wanted to walk away from the things he was doing to me, he decided to walk away and not care about her. I just keep thinking what the hell am i suppose to tell her when she starts wondering why her lil classmates have a dad and she doesnt? I cant tell her the truth that would crush anybody but yet how can i lie to her?
Contact your local Women's Crisis/Domestic Abuse Agency. I went thru something very similar. You'll have to sort all of this out eventually, so it might be easier and SAFER to act now.
Prioritize your safety and SANITY. Bullies have power when we are fearful and don't set limits. Domestic Abuse hotlines are staffed w/ experienced and compassionate ppl able to guide you in the right direction and give you your power back. Boundaries are imperative in these situations. Help is out there, make the call.