So I'm a wife of a bisexual man and before we got together he was up front about his sexuality which I did not mind because we clicked amd always had a good time together married 5years now and it's been a struggle he wants to be with men and wanted out of our marriage because of this I told him how about we open our relationship as long as we are honest with each other about our encounters I've struggled with actually doing the deed he has opened this with open arms my jealous tantrums get out of wack and I'm conflicted as to what I am doing were currently living apart due to a business start up were but the distance is taking a toll and idk the three year mark we decided for me to move to where he is at is to long and I fear that him having his cake and eating it too he'll enjoy it to much and not want to be with me I go thru the motions of anger hurt sad crying then I hav Dee my moments of we can do this we both still want to be married we love each other but is that enough the time apart seems like he is distancing himself he says that when he talks to me all I do is nag and complain I try to tell him to be patient with me im doing my best to be understanding but when he doesn't communicate with me or ignores me or doesn't keep in touch of course I'm gonna start thinking who is he is he enjoying himself so much he's gonna fall in love with a guy he asked me what if he does I told hom we would cross that bridge when it comes right now my vision is this will be something for us to explore enjoy and share but I haven't scared to with all the std's Idk what I'm doing I just try to be strong but some days are a struggle no one to talk to or confide in
I'm so sorry you r going through this and I hate to have to say this but if he was ready to leave you so as to be with other people he is not worth it. You are not happy with him and as painful as it is, in the long run it is better if u get divorced x
Telling OP to get a divorce based upon one emotional post is ridiculous. They might want to consider counseling before divorcing.
Sounds like the husband here was pretty desperate and didn't consider other options. The wife is being awesome even though it's a struggle. Good luck!
Thank you for the support its difficult but will keep trying
My situation is similar. After manydiscussions with my wife we got to a good place. She even went on OkCupid and found an awesome bi guy that we have threesomes with. She loves having 2 guys and I get to enjoy my bisexuality. It's working for us.
Even so, there are times that she struggles and tells me "I just wanted to be wanted" and "I don't have the parts you want." I try to assure her that I do want her sexually. It makes me feel inferior because she wouldn't question a hetero man's desire. It's hard to make a monosexual understand bisexuality. That we can enjoy all the eye candy and love all the naughty bits doesn't computer to someone that is only attracted to one gender.
Thank you for sharing always good to hear a bisexual persons perspective. I think that is awesome that you guys enjoy having threesomes and I think its a constant struggle of balancing out our needs. I understand how your wife feels I do have those moments as well but constant reassurance and patience does make it more easier. It's just really tough because I don't personally know other couples who have a partner that is bisexual and I think the stigma of them being just gay is more acceptable for people but I think there is more to it then just one sex attraction. Logically I get it I accept it and welcome my husband's sexuality what I struggle with is my own insecurities of not being enough even though I know I am it's a mind over matter kind of thing. My jealousy also I try to check myself and be open but the struggle is real. Right now I'm focusing on my needs and what makes me happy once I can find that then I think I'll be able to accept this lifestyle I think it's worth trying because I've seen many couples cheating on each other and the lies I figured if other people we come across make us happy why not just have to find them for some reason finding people accepting of this lifestyle may be harder. But I have faith it'll happen. I'm comforted knowing there are other couples going thru the same thing if not similar