So Im with someone who has a special needs child One normal daughter and my son.. a couple for a while. I love the her 2 children and as well my Own... through some unfortunate things as getting drunk 1 month dating and I revealed something of my past 3 months later she tells me 8 months later she tells me she has no desire to be with me and I have no self worth or awareness can someone help me with direction. My heart is broken bc in love her and would do anything for her but she has no dilesire so cam anyone help me and get me to understand why she said harsh things to me
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So I can understand, you confided in her about your past one months after dating? And 8 months later she decides to leave you?. I think she didnt truly loved you as you thought because real love, loves through anything no matter what I think you should try to take it easy and focus on your kids :-) you have my support.
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@Beautywithin414 she has too . Special needs and her daughter I have 1 from my prior. I get lied and but am I wrong for want to do things for her and wanting to help her unconditionally? She said that we aren't compatible and she has no desire to be with me ... so how do I handle this and get my heart secure from being crushed bc her son asks about me even to help with his hw
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Give her time. Don't smother her.... every now and then remind her that your still here and that you love her. If after some time she still does not reciprocate then you should try to heal, and move on.
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It's hard @rosa88rainbow because all I want to do is be around her. Her therapist keeps feeding into her mind things I don't know I'm afraid of losing someone I care deeply for and my son loves her as well.. I'm tied of crying about it
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Don't fear her therapist. Do you know the verse of love? I'm not religious but the quote does come from the Bible...
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Love is patient Love is kind
it does not envy, it does not boast
it is not proud, it is not rude
it is not self seeking
it is not easily angered
it keeps no record of wrongs
love does not delight in evil
but rejoices with truth
it Always protects, always trusts
always hopes, always perseveres
love never fails....
that goes for loving yourself as well
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Thanks for the good thoughts
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@Bull How are you doing? I haven’t talked to you for a while and have wondered how you have been.
It's a beautiful verse and one of my favorites, but i think more to the point hectorrodriguez is trying to understand how somebody that he loves can be with him one minute and then just decide to leave one day and rips his heart out in the process? hector really loved this woman like the bible verse reads, but unfortunately this woman didn't love him the same. Maybe she could not, or maybe she just used him and then moved on to the next man she wlll use, but Hector none of that is your fault and don't let her make you doubt yourself. It is good she has a therapist maybe you should get one too. sometimes we have to let go that which we love the most and all we can do is pray that they will come back to us in time, some will and some won't, cherish the one's that do and forget about the ones that don't because they are not worthy of your tears.
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It's so hard because one miN it's like yeah ur so immature blah blah blah and them it's babe can u do this or can you drive here or can u watch the kids here... I'm tired and now her new the g is thst I'm emotionally dependant on her
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@hectorerodriguez thinks it’s the other way round of she doesn’t want to be with u why is she asking u to do all these things for her personally I think she’s taking the piss and using u and think u could find somebody who deserves u she doesn’t
Hi. I think I blew my knee out at work pain has been worse by the hr. Cant sleep its going to be a long night.
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OWWWW! sorry i didn't see that when you posted it, but have you been to a doctor yet? that could mean surgery if you damaged it bad enough, the least they will do is stick a brace on you. I'm so sorry yoy got hurt.
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I go back to the doc Mon,, Need a mri, I know pain and took a flight for life once and this dang thing is excruciating
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Thank you
That what we need is to smile.. Sometime;s it;s hard to do...
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My ex left me after 9 years for someone else.. He said a lot of bad things about me... It hurt like hell.. I feel he said these things to make himself to look better for his own wrong doing.. He was a coward!! People will hurt use like it's nothing.. I know your heart is broken and so sorry.. We can't make someone to love use.. People will really say some harsh words.. I don't understand why... Hang in there and with time it get better.. I'm still trying to get over all the harsh words my ex said to me.. You want ever get over that.. Words hurt really bad.. Not a healthy relationship.. Try to move on with your life.. I know it's hard.. Wish you the best....
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@anxietywoman well said people do say the nastiest things in break ups.you will get over it and meet someone who cares.people can move on I did and now very happy.all the emotions I went through blaming myself anger frustration annoyed the hurt and more because of what my ex said really hurt.did she really love me.ended up on anti depressants for a time but moved on and doing ok now.best wishes to you
@hectorerodriguez one month of dating, and you told your girlfriend something you shouldn't revealed in the first place, or so early in the relationship...... Now 8 months after, she has no desired to be with you! Now, you have no self worth, and awareness...... You are so in love with her, and would do anything for her. You have tried to get her to loved you, but she told you that you'll are incompatible, and she had no desire to be with you..... Even though both of you'll kids missed you'll being together...... But even though you wanted her, and this relationship. There is nothing you can do to make somebody loved you, if they don't . I empathized with you. But that's how Love worked, the person you loved, and desired may not feel the same? Be strong, the best is yet, to followed.... SG friends are here, to support, and be supported.
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