So my friend has invited me to the pub for a quick pint afte

Mental Health Personality Disorders
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So my friend has invited me to the pub for a quick pint after work as she's going to be there with her girlfriend. I'm now freaking out because I want to go but I'm also terrified to go and feel really anxious and nauseas about going .... but there's no reason for me to feel anxious about it! Now I'm in a no win situation as a part of me wants to go and be 'normal' and social but the other part just wants to go home and sleep and I don't know what to do! This keeps happening any time I'm invited somewhere!

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You should go. If things get overwhelming take a trip to the bathroom breathe and rejoin them. Keep telling yourself youll be ok and you can handle this.

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@muneca I want to go, but I also really do NOT want to go. Both of these outcomes are torture, I won’t be happy either way. I feel sick now and can’t concentrate. I know none of this is a bad thing but it feels like torture why is my mind doing this? It’s a pub with a friend … it’s pathetic I feel this way!

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i know exactly what your saying like i really do. i even get like this and wow im going to say this in a public forum. so here i go. i get exactly like that what your message is when i go the shop to buy bread and milk. and that is 100% honest i get like what your feeling through every tiny part of interacting with anyone. Yet once im out and doing whatever it may be i feel fine. My advice is go , nat you have nothing to lose really , if you feel bad either way then go you might have an amazing time , if you dont then at least you can say you tried and tell your brain that your fighting tell it well i tried so you aint gonna stop me. little like pep talk against your own brain :/

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I bet its less torture to go, rather than not and wish you did later. Besides a few pints is great for taming anxiety. Go have some fun.

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I know the feeling. You might want to go to the pub for a few minutes.. only a short time. If you leave after a few minutes, you feel proud of yourself for going and if things go well and you are starting to feel more comfortable, you can stay longer.

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So I went and had a nice time! I hope my brain starts to understand that's it's ok to be around people sometimes. I feel exhausted now though!

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How do you feel your social skills are normally? What about your natural assertiveness?

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I'm not sure. I get told I'm chatty, sociable and funny. I don't think I'm assertive at all.