please forgive me as i climb on my soap box!!!!
several posts lately have worried me as they seem intent on inflicting pain on innocents who lives will be torn apart and the only reason they have is they are hurting and think others should know.
i of course refer to the innocent parties in affaires, the fact that any person who has an affaire and sustains it manages to conceal the beginnin of the affaire and definitely the middle yet they want an audience for the end.
what is even worse some of u want to inflict pain on others who are ignorant to what their other halves get up to and justify it by i would want to know if it was me!!!
"it must be that misery loves company"
have u not read the threads and seen its the innocent who suffer the most, its them who are left trying to find out where they went wrong. what they could do more and should do, the inner tormoil that they live with as self respect/worth/values are crushed by hearing about the horizontal hokey cokey.
whilst i agree that everyone is entitled to do as they wish with their own lives it does not give u the right to harm others by false kindness based on how u are feeling cos u found out your partner wasnt faithful, if u are in any doubt read some of the posts they are painful and pitiful as people think they are losers, or no good at anything. some even doubt the very qualities that made them exceptional young men/women that have given without reserve and been shunted aside not by something they had a chance to fight, but something that was kept from them jsut because of the excitment that got out of control, its those innocents who need help not the affairees (new word i made up )
so if u are a participant in an affaire and u wish to keep its beggining quiet or u have found out your signifigant other has had/having an affaire please do not inflict the pain u are feeling on others for there own good cos it wont do them any favors.
for those of u who have shown decency to conduct an affaire in silence and not upset the tempo of home life or change that much i congratulate u on having the foresight to seperate the two sections of your life.
at the end of the day its ok for u to feel hurt and get guidance or just be allowed the chance to vent/chat with others. it is not alright because u feel down to bring otthers down to your level as well
thank u for lettin me get my soap box out.....i will put it away now :D
as always
loving thoughts and positive vibes