Some of you may have seen Observe and Describe " what" skills that I have posted in the last few weeks. Participating is the last of the "what" skills and I am posting
the following from dbtselfhelp.com
Enter into your experiences whole-heartedly. Let yourself get involved in
the moment, letting go of ruminating and self-consciousness (no separation of self
from on-going events and interactions).
Become one with your experience, completely forgetting yourself.
Act intuitively from Wise Mind. Do just what is needed in each situation – a
skillful dancer on the dance floor, one with the music and our partner, neither
willful or sitting on your hands.
Actively practice your skills as you learn them until they become part of you,
where you use them without self-consciousness. Practice:
1. Changing harmful situations
2. Changing our harmful reactions to situations.
3. Accepting yourself and the situation as they are.
Participating is entering wholly into an activity, becoming one with the
activity. It is throwing yourself into something completely. It is spontaneous
behavior to a certain extent, although you can also do it mindfully.
Observing and describing help us understand and improve things.
Participating is the ultimate goal as one engages in activities non-selfconsciously.
Accept challenges and problems as part of life. Make changes
as necessary to improve long-term consequences. Engage Wise Mind in the