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found out a few months ago my son(40 yrs old) was using heroin. His girfriend died 2 yrs ago from drug overdose-My son and 12 yr old grandson moved in with us after this happened. Last yr my son had to serve weekends in jail for a yr for dui's. He says he was depressed because of death and the jail-so he turned to heroin. He works hard (very physical job) very rarely misses work- I think I have been an enabler as I have not made him pay rent as I thought he was paying off bills. He told us of drug addiction and checked himself into a rehab-but it was only for a week and then went back to work. He has started another religious based drug program-but only goes once a week. I don't know that this is helping him-I sometimes think he's going just to make me happy. He is tired and seems depressed most of the time. He says he is tired because of the job-My husband says he wants him to move out by first of year-he has no where to go -no drivers license-not alot of friends-as he does not socialize much-just work and his son. he works a couple blocks from our house so no worry about transportation from our house. I really want to help but I go through emotions of feeling sorry for him and then being really angry as he still is not totally up front on alot of things-and there have been some stealing and lieing when he was using. I still wonder at times if he is using-so then I say things that are hurtful and just escalate the situation-He is very laid back and does not say much-always has been quiet-so I really don't know what's going on in his head-any advise?? thanks

Hi CHRISSS. Welcome to SupportGroups.com. As a mom myself, I can understand your feelings about your son. Have you ever been to Alanon http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ or Naranon http://www.nar-anon.org/ for yourself. Those are support groups for loved ones of alcoholics and addicts. If you haven't been to them yet, then I suggest checking them out. You can also find meetings for them here http://www.stepchat.com/ . Please keep coming back and letting us know how you and your son are doing. We are here for you. ((((hugs))))

Thanks Bluidkiti-I have thought about the nar-anon-I will look into-