SOS
So, I went on a date the day before I got my results and the guy was great! We hit it off and he wants to go out again. But now I have this weight of hsv and I don't know what to do. I should obviously tell him but when and how and ughhhhh! He's in the medical field so I feel that he is just going to be disgusted by me and run away. I fear rejection.
I felt the same, most people freaked out and ran away, I was infected with hsv 1, wbu
@Anne.Omonus:
if he's in the medical field, she *should* know the dynamics of HSV and be that much more understanding... BUT, many in the medical field are less than versed. should he reject you, that's his call... we've all been rejected whether a job, a partner, etc, rejection is a part of life. over qualified, under qualified, or whatever. HSV will help weed out those less than deserving of you.
UMMMM IF HE'S IN THE MED FIELD, HE KNOWS THAT OVER HALF THE PEOPLE THAT WALK IN THAT PLACE HAVE SOME FORM OF HERPES....HE'S THE ONE YOU ACTUALLY "WANT" TO CONTINUE SEEING.....
@a_survivor @enking3
Thank you both so much for this. I have been avoiding contacting him again for the fear of being rejected but I thought "what the hell" and sent him a text today. I think maybe I'll try to go on a few more dates and then bring it up … still not sure how to do that though.
so sry to hear about this and I totally get how you feel. I think the MOST important thing when you talk about herpes is making sure you are comfortable with it, so you don't project the feeling of disgust that you have. If I were you I would wait to tell him until you've sorted out your feelings about it. It's normal to feel shocked and disgusted at first. Also it's normal to have more outbreaks the first 6 months to a year and then they go dormant for a lot of people. There are some natural remedies you can use to keep outbreaks under control. It is less likely to spread from a woman to a guy, and guys are usually less freaked out by the idea of herpes than women. him being in the medical field makes him more likely to be comfortable with the idea of herpes, he no doubt knows the statistics and sees people with various viruses and such all the time, he will prly be less judgemental than the average person. You can still date the guy and just tell him you want to keep things simple, you don't have to tell him right now. Wait until you are in a serious relationship with someone you trust before you tell anyone, so you don't get an angry ex telling rumors.